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Authority: Tool For Good Child Upbringing
Exercising of authority involves keeping a close check on a child to be able to trim his or her excesses. Discipline is one of the tools employed in this instance.
It has become glaring that “children brought up by loving but authoritative parents, such that are supportive of their children, yet maintain firm limit, excel academically, develop better social skills, feel good about themselves and are happier than children whose parents are either too lenient or excessively harsh” according to Parents Magazine
From babyhood through teenage, children are known to challenge daddy and Mummy’s right to exert authority over them. This accounts for why they quickly exploit any avenue that exposes the parents’ weakness to show their own supremacy. However, standing up to your feet to impress it on them that you remain the boss of the house, cows them down.
Never mind that you’ve got to be firm to your loved child, that you will alienate him or crush his spirit if you exercise your authority, No! You can exercise your authority without becoming a tyrant. The policy of disciplining with one hand and drawing closer with another will help a great deal, in love, let the child know why he is being disciplined.
In defining the family rules and the need to enforce them promptly; children though are small, they have their minds and desires, besides, they have an inborn tendency to sin.
These traits must be vehementaly challenged by designing rules and consequences and making sure that the later is upheld promptly for without that it is difficult to achieve your aim. Never for any reason relax in punishing any contravener, ofcourse that must be done in a calm, firm and consistent manner. If you are highly angry, wait for your anger to calm down before you administer any disciplinary action otherwise, you may do it wrongly.
Establishing and maintaining routines must not be handled with levity. Living in a time when people are deeply engrossed in their pursuit of material wealth, it becomes obviously difficult to maintain this aspect of parenting.
However, it takes discipline and determination on the part of the adult to do it. Routines are a major part of adult life. Work, worship and even recreation usually follow set rountine.
The children become handicapped when they are not exposed to structuring their time and taught to stick to a schedule.
Studies also show that having rules and structures makes a child feel safe and secure and teaches self-control and self-reliance.
Children by their nature, like freedom and total freedom we are told, potend danger, so,to eat, when to sleep day and night), when to study and when to go for recreation.
This must be closely monitored to ensure full compliance.
Acknowleding your child’s feelings: Every child no doubt expresses his feeling and emotions in one way or the other. Parents must create the impression that children are humans too that deserve attention, they need to be heared and attended to accordingly.
However, when negative feelings or emotions are expressed, parents must wisely and gently convince them to drop or discard such negative feelings.
Children are easily wary of parents who habitually contradicts them when their feelings are expressed. They will be less likely to open up to them as well as start doubting their ability to feel and think for themselves.
Above all, every parent must endeavour to be a role model. Copying parents is “one of the most powerful ways that children learn”, says Dr. Sal Severe, an author, what the parent verbally tells the children does not impact half as much as their action does on the them hence the need to always do what is right before them.
Parents must appologise to their children when they are at fault. This teaches the child to also say “I’m sorry” when he contravenes. You are under the watchful eyes of your children, so, be wise!
Sylvia ThankGod Amadi
IVY-K Fashion by Igiebor Daddy Lucky, a Nigerian-born designer now based in the UK, has launched the latest menswear line, Dapper Man.
One of the collection’s strengths is its classic, clean aesthetic. Dapper Man delivers sharp, structured suits in a timeless black and white color scheme that exudes a sense of luxury and professionalism. The use of high-quality fabrics like wool and silk ensures that the suits not only look high-end but also feel luxurious to the wearer. The designer’s focus on detail is evident in the meticulous tailoring, with fitted blazers and crisp trousers forming the foundation of the collection.
Where IVY-K Fashion shines is in the subtle yet elegant touches. The inclusion of beads as embellishments on lapels and cuffs adds a unique flair, blending traditional craft with modern tailoring. This nod to African heritage gives the collection a distinct identity, offering something more personal and culturally significant than your standard menswear line.
However, despite the elegance of the Dapper Man collection, there is a lingering sense of missed opportunity. The black-and-white color palette, while classic, feels overly safe. In a fashion landscape where bold colors and daring patterns often make the strongest impact, the collection could benefit from incorporating more vibrant hues or experimenting with unconventional fabrics. Pushing the envelope with color or texture could elevate these designs from simply elegant to truly memorable.
In addition, while the tailoring of the blazers and trousers is immaculate, the collection lacks a sense of playfulness or modern edge that many contemporary menswear lines are embracing. The suits are undoubtedly stylish, but the collection as a whole leans heavily on tradition. Experimenting with asymmetrical cuts, bold patterns, or even layering could add an exciting dimension to Dapper Man. The challenge is to maintain the sleek sophistication of the collection while infusing it with a fresh, innovative spirit.
Another area that could use improvement is the overall cohesion of the collection. While the suits are well-crafted, there is a feeling of repetition across the pieces. More variation in design, such as different lapel styles, pocket configurations, or even bolder accessories, would give the collection greater diversity and visual interest.
In conclusion, Dapper Man by Igiebor Daddy Lucky showcases the designer’s strong grasp of classic tailoring and elegant design, but to truly capture the attention of a broader audience, IVY-K Fashion would benefit from more daring choices. By infusing the collection with bold colors, unexpected textures, and a more modern edge, Dapper Man could move from a well-crafted line to a trendsetting force in men’s fashion. With such a solid foundation, there’s no doubt that Igiebor Daddy Lucky has the potential to lead his brand toward greater heights
The trend of indecent dressing all in the name of fashion is fast becoming a norm in our generation and society at large. Most married women embrace this fashion as competition with single ladies.
Different scholars have given an in depth insight about dressing as a tool of communication. Non-verbal communication has been asserted as the communication between people by the means of signs or symbols. It conveys what we wish to disseminate to the public as either intentionally or not.
According to Paul Ekman and Michael Argyle, communication is carried out through what has been classified as “Presentational Code”. He listed nine codes of non-verbal communication, as body contact, facial expression, gestures, postures, eye movement, proximity, orientation, head nods and appearance.
This, being stated, married and single ladies should understand that their mode of dressing is communicative be it directly or indirectly as such body parts we call “private” are now being made public because of the trends or wearing of transparent dresses and this in turn calls on the attention of men who are weak and prone to illicit thoughts thus, resulting to most rape cases in our society.
This indecent dressing by most ladies has denied many their future husbands. The truth is that a man is attracted to his kind; his desires in marriage. It is often asserted that decency and beauty are in the eyes of the beholder, yet, in trending times of this 21st century, dress code and fashion in nudity form is gaining popularity.
This has become complicated as most men tend to toggle between their emotions (lust) and sanity (rationality) in terms of marriage, thereby setting a wrong foundation upon which most marriages are consummated.
On the other hand, most married women have embraced the trend of indecent dressing nipping it on the state of it being the choice dressing, approved by their spouses, leaving society with the question of what “responsible” man would prefer that the secrecy of the benefit of his marital vow has become the centre of attraction and viewership by the general public.
Hence, communicating with their dressing gas given licence to every male gender who is interested or attracted to what they see to make unsolicited sexual passes at them, which might be considered embarrassing.
At this juncture, it is important to state that ladies should dress decently knowing that they are the epitome of nation-building, they are nation-builders, character moulders and pacesetters not just in the lives of their families but to the society at large.
In most occasions, there are no clear border lines between the married women and the single ladies because of the rate of scanty dressing which has close the gap of differences.
Women and girls should embrace this call awakening to decent mode of dressing. Dresses that are meant to be worn indoors should remain indoors.
It is worrisome to see ladies wear shorts that are supposed to be worn in the living room on the streets without shame. This is an awakening call to our ladies, married and singles that the opposite sex do not expose their private body parts for the public. Sometimes, the ladies go about in the streets without wearing brazziers as to showcase their nipples.
The society should be sanitised of the menace of indecent dressing that is lurking and taking over the entire nooks and crannies of the society and the nation at large.
Let it be known that he or she is addressed in the manner he or she is dressed. There may be no room for a second impression. To the single ladies, your dressing decently will not stop you from meeting your Mr Right rather, it will increase your stake and place you on the list of most valued women in the society.
Dressing speaks louder than words.
Kate Chisom Isiocha
Isiocha is an OND final year student of Temple Gate Polytechnic.
