Women
Wife Dialogues With Husband’s Mistress
A wife is part and parcel of her husband as the Bible rightly says that both of them become one flesh.
Recently, a wife met a mistress, a suspected lover of her husband and this dialogue ensued between them.
Wife: I know we are all women but what makes you associate with married men?
Mistress: Well, I suppose they are the ones who are out to give joy to unmarried women without any strings attached.
Wife: You do really know these men are only having fun at your expense?
Mistress: Yes, we folks outside do know this fact, and mark you we gain a lot too.
Wife: What exactly do you gain from a man, who has given the best part of his life to another woman. A woman he had chosen to love, cherish and to live with all the days of his life. A beloved from his strings of women friends and marched down the aisle?
Mistress: We gain such material wealth like having expensive clothes, Jewelries etc.
Wife: Do you ever have any atom of love for these men because we inside the home usually believe a man’s first loyalty is to his wife and family, all other associations come secondary?
Mistress: I do agree with you my dear, some of these men are devoted and committed to their wives and families that some times they let you know from the beginning that their association with you must be most secretive because they would hate to love their wives.
Coming to your next point, that is, do we some time love the men? My answer is yes in capital.
Some of these men are most handsome, there are ones that are pot bellied and have nothing to offer. Some are very rich, which encourages you to stay on. Grabbing as much as you can.
Wife: What a waste of one’s time.
Mistress: Oh no, it is no waste of time as far as we are concerned we are pushed into such situations.
It is every woman’s desire to marry but if it did not turn out positive, life must go on.
Wife: Dating married men is not the ultimate. Majority of the married men snatch a little fun here and there after which they quickly drop the issue and go back to their wives and families.
Mistress: We are also having fun as it were more often than not some of us have 3 or more different married men-friends. Each shouldering one responsibility or the other. The one I love most is the one I spend for.
Wife: Why do you care for him and spend so much on him.
Mistress: I love him because he is the one that is difficult to get on with, the other ones are easy to get along with.
Wife: It is wise to turn a new leaf. Stop your involvement with married men.
Mistress: It is not easy. Only the married rich men that can help out since there is no single man that I can call my own. The married men are helping out to make life meaningful.
Wife: Of a truth life is war but it is wise to look up to God, the author and finisher of our faith. He can do for you what no man can do. Believe in him. Accept Him as your Lord and Saviour. Jesus can solve the problems and He will take away the reproach of unmarried life.
Keeping a lot of men in your life will ruin you completely. Change your life style for the better. AIDS is real, Hell fire is also real. Stop selling your body for money. It is the temple of the most High God. Keep it Holy. If you believe, the Lord will order the foot steps of your husband and your life will ever remain the same. Believe and our Lord Jesus will give you the desires of your heart.
It is done in Jesus Name, Amen.
Mistress: Thank you.
Julie Jumbo
Women
Nigeria Deserves Stylish, Sophisticated Designs-Igiebor Daddy Lucky
IVY-K Fashion by Igiebor Daddy Lucky, a Nigerian-born designer now based in the UK, has launched the latest menswear line, Dapper Man.
One of the collection’s strengths is its classic, clean aesthetic. Dapper Man delivers sharp, structured suits in a timeless black and white color scheme that exudes a sense of luxury and professionalism. The use of high-quality fabrics like wool and silk ensures that the suits not only look high-end but also feel luxurious to the wearer. The designer’s focus on detail is evident in the meticulous tailoring, with fitted blazers and crisp trousers forming the foundation of the collection.
Where IVY-K Fashion shines is in the subtle yet elegant touches. The inclusion of beads as embellishments on lapels and cuffs adds a unique flair, blending traditional craft with modern tailoring. This nod to African heritage gives the collection a distinct identity, offering something more personal and culturally significant than your standard menswear line.
However, despite the elegance of the Dapper Man collection, there is a lingering sense of missed opportunity. The black-and-white color palette, while classic, feels overly safe. In a fashion landscape where bold colors and daring patterns often make the strongest impact, the collection could benefit from incorporating more vibrant hues or experimenting with unconventional fabrics. Pushing the envelope with color or texture could elevate these designs from simply elegant to truly memorable.
In addition, while the tailoring of the blazers and trousers is immaculate, the collection lacks a sense of playfulness or modern edge that many contemporary menswear lines are embracing. The suits are undoubtedly stylish, but the collection as a whole leans heavily on tradition. Experimenting with asymmetrical cuts, bold patterns, or even layering could add an exciting dimension to Dapper Man. The challenge is to maintain the sleek sophistication of the collection while infusing it with a fresh, innovative spirit.
Another area that could use improvement is the overall cohesion of the collection. While the suits are well-crafted, there is a feeling of repetition across the pieces. More variation in design, such as different lapel styles, pocket configurations, or even bolder accessories, would give the collection greater diversity and visual interest.
In conclusion, Dapper Man by Igiebor Daddy Lucky showcases the designer’s strong grasp of classic tailoring and elegant design, but to truly capture the attention of a broader audience, IVY-K Fashion would benefit from more daring choices. By infusing the collection with bold colors, unexpected textures, and a more modern edge, Dapper Man could move from a well-crafted line to a trendsetting force in men’s fashion. With such a solid foundation, there’s no doubt that Igiebor Daddy Lucky has the potential to lead his brand toward greater heights
Women
Women Can Curb Indecent Dressing
The trend of indecent dressing all in the name of fashion is fast becoming a norm in our generation and society at large. Most married women embrace this fashion as competition with single ladies.
Different scholars have given an in depth insight about dressing as a tool of communication. Non-verbal communication has been asserted as the communication between people by the means of signs or symbols. It conveys what we wish to disseminate to the public as either intentionally or not.
According to Paul Ekman and Michael Argyle, communication is carried out through what has been classified as “Presentational Code”. He listed nine codes of non-verbal communication, as body contact, facial expression, gestures, postures, eye movement, proximity, orientation, head nods and appearance.
This, being stated, married and single ladies should understand that their mode of dressing is communicative be it directly or indirectly as such body parts we call “private” are now being made public because of the trends or wearing of transparent dresses and this in turn calls on the attention of men who are weak and prone to illicit thoughts thus, resulting to most rape cases in our society.
This indecent dressing by most ladies has denied many their future husbands. The truth is that a man is attracted to his kind; his desires in marriage. It is often asserted that decency and beauty are in the eyes of the beholder, yet, in trending times of this 21st century, dress code and fashion in nudity form is gaining popularity.
This has become complicated as most men tend to toggle between their emotions (lust) and sanity (rationality) in terms of marriage, thereby setting a wrong foundation upon which most marriages are consummated.
On the other hand, most married women have embraced the trend of indecent dressing nipping it on the state of it being the choice dressing, approved by their spouses, leaving society with the question of what “responsible” man would prefer that the secrecy of the benefit of his marital vow has become the centre of attraction and viewership by the general public.
Hence, communicating with their dressing gas given licence to every male gender who is interested or attracted to what they see to make unsolicited sexual passes at them, which might be considered embarrassing.
At this juncture, it is important to state that ladies should dress decently knowing that they are the epitome of nation-building, they are nation-builders, character moulders and pacesetters not just in the lives of their families but to the society at large.
In most occasions, there are no clear border lines between the married women and the single ladies because of the rate of scanty dressing which has close the gap of differences.
Women and girls should embrace this call awakening to decent mode of dressing. Dresses that are meant to be worn indoors should remain indoors.
It is worrisome to see ladies wear shorts that are supposed to be worn in the living room on the streets without shame. This is an awakening call to our ladies, married and singles that the opposite sex do not expose their private body parts for the public. Sometimes, the ladies go about in the streets without wearing brazziers as to showcase their nipples.
The society should be sanitised of the menace of indecent dressing that is lurking and taking over the entire nooks and crannies of the society and the nation at large.
Let it be known that he or she is addressed in the manner he or she is dressed. There may be no room for a second impression. To the single ladies, your dressing decently will not stop you from meeting your Mr Right rather, it will increase your stake and place you on the list of most valued women in the society.
Dressing speaks louder than words.
Kate Chisom Isiocha
Isiocha is an OND final year student of Temple Gate Polytechnic.