Women
‘I Feel Fulfilled Contributing To Family Purse’
If the idea that every human has an innate potential is anything to go by, then, it should also be told that every woman has an innate potential, waiting to be harnessed perhaps when subjected to test.
Test? Yes in every sense of it, is the only way to bring about the best in a human, who may not know until then, the much he or she is endowed with.
The fear to attempt or explore life’s ventures that could possibly highlight and eventually showcase an individual, has been the bane of every economic and probably social development.
Women in particular, had been the worst hit by this phobia. In this week’s edition, Directress of Gborsi Resources in Port Harcourt, Mrs. Patience, Alex-Naenwi, allays fear in women who have what it takes to change their financial history but still wonder which way to go.
For Mrs. Alex-Naenwi Patience, no woman should hide under the cloak of husband not allowing her to work, it is simply a display of ineptitude.
First, a woman must consider herself a useful material that is left to rot when she does not make any financial impact.
She must also consider herself fulfilled only when she could be heard and felt.
Hence, the need for women to rise and grow above the fears of failure and decide, determine to give life’s ventures a trial by airing out and proving to those who could be of help that they could be resourceful if given the needed assistance to stand.
A mother of three, Mrs Alex-Naenwi Patience holds an HND certificate. The inavailability of job upon graduation, brought about the juice in her that is today sucked by many. Excerpts.
What is Gborsi Resources all about and how was the concept conceived, hatched and developed?
Gboris Resources is all about event planning, occasion management, cake baking for any occasion and outdoor cooking. It is also involved in body beautification.
The dream was nursed 11 years ago when I stumbled into a woman who makes hat, I indicated an interest to learn and she obliged me the privilege and thereafter encouraged me to go into decorations.
What exactly captured your fancy in hat making?
Creativity! Not just the hat making alone, in cake making and decoration, creativity stands out. Each time I look at any work of arts, I am always compelled to unravel the spirit behind such unique and fantastic exhibitions.
Today you talk about Gborsi Resources, what was the source of your initial capital?
May husband of course! Though at first when I made my intention known to him, he had his fears as to how sound I was to undertake such venture but as a loving husband he gave me a pat on the back (support) and that gave rise to the structure we now call Gborsi Resources.
Do you work alone?
Not at all! I have my workers; boys and girls, I also have trainees who are also very handy whenever duty calls. I train them in hat making, hair dressing cake making, designing, modeling and piping and at the end of their training they are issued a certificate.
Any regret?
No! I have placed my hand on the plough so I can’t go back, I derive joy in it. Maybe I need to tell you more. Cake making involves so much of creativity, modeling, dressing and piping. I’ve been into it for years. After creating, dressing and decorating a cake and you behold the finished work, it is wao! A “fantastic creation”.
How do you handle the conflict in your duties as a wife, mother and cake designer?
Accepted that the job of an event manager is a strenuous one, however, I am equal to the task. The entire household has eventually fallen in love with the vocation; ranging from my husband to my children. They even assist me whenever there is a need to deliver.
All the same, as a vetran, I programme myself to ensure there is no conflict. Besides, my husband and children understand the demands of my profession.
What are your challenges?
My major challenge is an office space. You know our society favours flamboyance and elegance, people want to see a very big outfit identified with your name before they can believe in you and patronise you. They fail to understand that even in Nazareth, a savior could be born. So I need a more spacious accommodation to showcase our service items.
Another challenge I have is my graduates. While it is my dream that these young ones who are trained by me would grow and be established as bigger names in the industry, you rather see some of them fizzle out after a while it is quite unfortunate.
How have you used your office to address the issue of youth restiveness?
Youth restiveness should be the concern of all sound minds. However, I think that when youths are mentally and physically engaged, they think less of evil.
From time to time I make them realise that they can be more useful to themselves and society if they could explore and exploit the opportunity provided them by the training. We make them realise that if they put their brain to work, they could come up with concepts that could sell them to the outside world hereafter. We teach them to realize that no work is mean or rated below others, and so they must not rate themselves less than others because of the vocation they have chosen in life.
Of a truth, you cannot compare a jobless graduate with a non-graduate who is engaged. The later will definitely impact on his/her environment. And because he is engaged he cannot be named among the restive youth.
At the home front, what’s your contribution?
I believe that the business of running a home should not be the exclusive preserve of the man or the woman. If a woman is buoyant enough, she should take the lead while the man lends his support. For me, the business is almost a family thing, so, incomes from it also goes into solving family problems no discretion at all! I’m rather fulfilled contributing to the family purse.
What’s your advice to women who hold tenaciously to their money?
I think they need to understand the meaning of family. They should be told that the man and the woman are one and so there should be no discrimination as to who owns what. They both should work together.
Sylvia ThankGod-Amadi
Women
Women Can Go Without Artificial Beauty
Looking good is some women’s business. Looking beautiful for some persons is more important than food. Some prefer to appear trendy instead of attending to household pressure.
Beauty they say is in the eye of the beholder. Every woman by creature is beautiful but some persons feel that the way they were created is not enough. They feel that perhaps the creator should have added more features to their physic.
Artificial beauty did not start today, it has been there as far as man exists. From time to time, there has been one form of additional make-up or the other that women especially, must add to their natural look.
When you look at some of our elders, especially women, you notice certain drills or symbols (tattoo) on their skins, mostly on their hands and legs, in form of designs with dark prints. That is a form of artificial beauty. These days, some young ones still use such to beautify themselves.
It is not only women that are involved in artificial beauty, some young men also have likeness for it. It is common nowadays to see younger male folks spend money to pierce their ears to wear earrings. They also style their hairs in various forms to appear like women so as to look more handsome. This no doubt costs them more money than being in their natural look.
Every generation grows with it’s own new systems, items, styles of artificial beauty. Before now, African women generally and Nigeria in particular had their hair in natural form.
As civilisation and westernisation continued, Nigerian women started copying, for instance, perming of their hair to look like the White women. They started using western-produced chemicals (relaxers) to make their hairs look sleepy and smoother.
Nigerian women used to plate their hair with black thread or go with their hair well cut at low level. In terms of weaving, it was without attachment. The issue of women weaving hair with attachment came with civilisation. That is also a form of make-up.
The quest for extra beauty aside the way women were created has been from one generation to another.
Two or three decades ago, ladies used mascaras to darken and thicken their eyelashes. But in this 21st century, another system has evolved. Fixing of artificial eyelashes has become the order of the day.
In that case, it becomes difficult for them to scratch their eyes Incase of any itches. Some of their eyes turn reddish because of the touch.
There was a lady who was fixing her eyelashes in a salon, unfortunately, she got a phone call that her mother was late, as she started crying, it was difficult for her to clean the tears that were flowing down her cheeks.
The reason was for fear of the eye lashes falling off while cleaning the tears off her eyes.
One funny thing about fixing of artificial eyelashes is that some persons cannot close their eyes properly. The beauty they have in mind before fixing is not really achieved as their look become something anybody cannot behold. Both the shape of their eyes and facial outlook automatically change. One begins to wonder if that is the beauty they are looking for. Instead of looking beautiful, the reverse becomes the case.
As years go by, artificial beauty becomes more sophisticated in the society. The price and cost for looking more beautiful than women were created naturally becomes higher than their natural look.
The cosmetic industry becomes one of the most viable industries worldwide because some women desire artificial beauty. Some engage in cosmetic surgery to alter any part of their body which does not give them pleasure especially the fatty parts. Some go for surgery to make their slacked breasts to return to their original shapes as well as those with big tummies.
It is interesting to note that currently, Nigerian ladies have started to give preference to their natural hair and this is attracting a lot of admiration for them. Many prefer that natural look with low cuts. With that, the cost of maintaining the hair by ladies is reduced.
I think this is commendable as it will save the women from the negative effect of chemical used in manufacturing hair relaxers.
It is also common to see ladies on low cut hairs that are either light complexion, red and other funny colours.
People have been addicted to artificial beauty to the extent that they insert certain substances into their bodies to make them become more robust and attractive to their admirers.
I don’t understand why we should be crazy about adding more to our natural look. Every woman wants to look attractive in a packaged manner without recognising the implications of artificial beauty and make-up.
In fact, women’s quest for beauty has taken different dimension as they tend to appear trendy at home, in offices and as they go about their businesses. That is just to feel belonged and achieve self-esteem.
I recall a few years back, my pastor who trained as an Engineer advised women against the use of lipstick. He said that one of the chemical components of lipstick is lead and that it is dangerous to humans. Many women may not understand the reality of what he said until it manifests.
I think those who are naturally beautiful should not go for artificial make-ups. They should be satisfied with the work of their creator. Women should not continue to paint their faces to look like masquerades and should not lose value due to artificial beauty.
It may interest you to know that persons who apply make-ups excessively are mocked instead of being admired. Make-ups can be applied lightly.
Fixing of nails is another business. After fixing nails, some women find it difficult to perform house cores. Washing their personal belongings becomes a problem. The artificial nails become so long and sophisticated to the extent that the bearer cannot handle objects properly. Those in that habit also find it difficult to eat food with the fingers.
There are people who feel they should have been born in certain colour but when the reverse is the case, they seek artificial make-up. Use of skin-toning cream and soap becomes the option for artificial beauty. This happens to the extent that the users start having dark spots on the skin. Blisters occur on their faces and legs.
Unfortunately, this is an era when there are different kinds of cancer affecting women especially. It becomes difficult to identify the kind of make-up that can be cancerous.
It is high time people had stopped following trend to the detriment of their health.
Ladies should not present themselves as laughing stock with unnecessary make-up as they can still be cherished in their natural outlook.
Eunice Choko – Kayode
Women
IDGC: Girls’ Vision For The Future
Yearly, the girls are celebrated not just because they are girls, but because of their importance to families, society and the nation at large.
You will agree that when the girl-child comes into a family first, that family is blessed. The assistance she renders to the family can not be compared to that of the opposite sex.
The job she does in the home cuts across many duties. In the home, she takes care of her younger ones. She assists her mother in carrying out house chores. After her educational career and she obtains a job, she caters for her family even as she is married out. She takes care of her aged parents in her matrimonial home.
This same girl-child when given the right training and opportunities, will also train her offspring. Thus, “train a woman and you train a nation”. When women are at the helms of affairs, things are done better.
Celebrating the girl-child yearly is a call to parents, families, faith-based organisations, non-governmental organisations, governments at all levels, and all relevant organisations that have one or two things to do with the girls to continue to put in place policies that will enhance their well-being.
On a daily basis, the girl-child faces more challenges. Sometimes, she finds it difficult to resist dangers. The issue of rape, violence of any form, sexual harassment, intimidation, discrimination in families about who should go to school or not.
The Nigeria Association of Women Journalists (NAWOJ), Rivers State chapter, called on the government, the state and local assembly to enact laws that criminalise any act capable of impeding the education of the girl-child.
The association made the call as it joined the world to commemorate the International Day of the Girl-Child, in Port Harcourt, Friday.
NAWOJ also appealed to ministry of education and other relevant authorities to prevail against hawking during school hours, as well as call for an end to early girl-child marriage.
The state chairperson of the association, Susan Serekara-Nwikhana, who spoke in an interview with the press said: “We are calling on the Rivers State government, the Rivers State House of Assembly and the Local Assembly to enact laws that criminalise any act capable of impeding on the education of the girl child.
“We also want the government to throw her weight against any girl-child found hawking on the streets during school hours as this will serve as deterrent to any parent or ward that is nursing such idea.
“There is need for every girl-child to be properly educated as this impact generally on the society positively.”
Speaking on the 2024 theme which is, “Girls’ Vision For The Future”, NAWOJ chair stressed the need for parents to prioritise the education of their daughters.
She explained that quality education was key to an assured future for every girl-child, stressing that education unlocks doors of possibilities and the I-can spirit.
Her words: “Remember, you put an end to blind submission when you train the girl-child. Today, many girl-children have been abandoned and are left to pass through harrowing conditions that they never dreamt of due to lack of education.
“Do you know that the girl child suffer most as she is confronted with lots of challenges from the day she was born into a home; siblings rivalry on who should go to school and who should not, a decision that most parents take that negatively impedes on the girl-child and to the day she steps into her husband’s house, especially with a wicked mother-in-law or father-in-law.”
She noted that only those female children privileged to acquire quality education can surmount the challenges that confront them on their way to greatness.
“As we all know that the role of every woman in the society cannot be over-emphasised as such without education given to the gild-child, the society will raise dysfunctional women, who are abused, used and abandoned”, she emphasised.
The NAWOJ chair insisted: “When the girl-child is exposed to education, you have given her opportunity to endless possibilities, thereby putting an end to subjugation and blind subservient”.
As Rivers State joins the rest of the world to mark the 2024 International Day of the Girl-Child, a non-profit organisation, Multi Stakeholders Committee for the Prevention of Gender-Based Violence in Rivers State has called for policies to protect the girl- child against gender-based violence.
It also urged for massive investment in the development of the girl-child.
The group said this in a statement to mark the day.
According to the statement signed by the coordinator of the group, who is also the Head of the Public Defender, Rivers State, Evelyn Membere Asimiea, time has come for the society to stand together and ensure that no girl is left behind.
She also said the celebration which has as its theme, “Girls, Vision For The Future”, is a call to action not just to acknowledge the challenges girls face but to actively empower them.
According to the statement, as we join the global community to celebrate the International Day of the Girl-Child, we are reminded of the powerful potential of every girl and the urgent need to invest in their rights. This year’s theme, “Girls: Vision For The Future,” calls us to action not just to acknowledge the challenges girls face but to actively empower them as leaders of tomorrow.
Mrs Asimiea said time has come for stakeholders including government, civil society organisations, families and individuals to stand together and ensure that no girl is left behind.
“As Coordinator of the Multi-Stakeholders Committee for the Prevention of Gender-Based Violence and Head of the Office of the Public Defender, Rivers State, I wish to highlight that our girls are at the heart of building strong, safe, and prosperous communities. Yet, they are often the most vulnerable to violence, discrimination, and neglect. It is time for all of us—government, civil society, families, and individuals—to stand together and ensure that no girl is left behind”, the statement said.
She also called for massive investment in the girl- child, adding: “Investing in girls means ensuring they have access to quality education, healthcare, and equal opportunities.
“It means protecting them from all forms of gender-based violence (GBV), child marriage, and harmful traditional practices.
“When we invest in the safety, education, and empowerment of girls, we are investing in the future of our state and nation.”
It reiterated its commitment to continue to advocate for the right of the girl child, stressing that the group is working tirelessly to advocate for the rights of girls and the women.
“We are working tirelessly to advocate for the rights of girls and women, providing legal support to survivors of GBV, and pushing for stronger policies to prevent violence and protect their futures.
“But we cannot do it alone. We need every family, every community leader, and every citizen to take responsibility for the well-being of our girls.
“On this day, I urge you all to commit to creating a world where every girl feels safe, valued, and empowered to lead. Together, we can build a Rivers State where girls’ rights are protected, and their leadership flourishes, for the future of all of us”, the coordinator said.
As we mark this year’s girl-child day, women groups all over the world should as a matter of fact, continue to create awareness on the need to develop them in the right way so that they can showcase their potentials.
Eunice Choko-Kayode
Women
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