Women
Are You Embarrassed By Ugly Fat?
Those who have expe
rienced excess fat, I call it ‘ugly fat,’ will tell you it shatters self exteem, it crushes self confidence. For the married, it makes them look older than their partners, it disrupts their sex life and can cause embarrassing moments like; being called a “madam” by your age mates, colleague and acquaintances who are even older than you are when you are yet to hit 35 years old .
In this era of using security doors in banks, many have been refused entry into the banks by the security door due to their weight which exceeds the weight programmed to be accepted by the doors as an individual weight. And securities have to override the system just to let them in.
Mr Adetunji, an expert in healthy living, after outlining the above experience adds that many victims of ugly fat had been refused carriage by motor-cyclists for fear of flattening their tyres and by motorists on grounds that they occupy more than the space meant for one person.
Funny indeed, when they are considered, they are made to pay double. What an experience?
How about being asked if you have not yet put to bed when you are not even pregnant? Adetunji pointed out that some husbands take to ignoring their partners simply because “fat people irritate them.”
Mrs Fearless Rose, a nutritionist, says every woman once delivered of a child, is bound to put on weight, mainly because they eat a lot without commensurate exercise which makes them look 3x their original size and it takes a few to go to the gym.
She insists that roburstness does not mean good body care. It rather means building up calories and cholesterol in the system, and in some homes it drives away the man’s attraction as he now sees the wife as an old woman.
Apart from what the experts have said, it is not gainsaying the fact that victims of ugly fat, don’t have good steps, dance steps and are not fashionable. A woman of 100kg can hardly be attractive in skirth -suit.
Above all, when you lose your attractive tendencies, you risk the love of your spouse which ofcourse is too expensive to trade with.
However, both Adetunji and Mrs Fearless, agree that there is hope for the living. In their respective comments, Adetunji says “you can get rid of excess ugly fat and transform your body into that confident, sexy and slim body you’ve always wanted.”
The duo insist that all that is required to keep fit is to address it the natural way, that is devoid of any health risk and you can be sure to look attractive, just as you’ve ever wanted, say good bye to ugly pot belly, regain your confidence and the fear of losing your spouse to a younger slim person, as your problem of fat arms, thighs and buttocks will become history.
But how is this possible? Adetunji prescribes clean 9″ (c9), a weight management programme that lasts for nine (9) days and helps shed weight in areas like tummy, thigh, arms. According to him, it works within (9) days and won’t need to be continued except you are very big. According to him, one would lose between 5-10kg with one pack in 9 days.
Fearless Rose allays the fears with Eternal slimming tea and Hugan tea which she said help victims shed weight and cease the grip of hunger while reducing the size of the belly. She admonishes women to look out for these two items.
Sylvia ThankGod-Amadi
IVY-K Fashion by Igiebor Daddy Lucky, a Nigerian-born designer now based in the UK, has launched the latest menswear line, Dapper Man.
One of the collection’s strengths is its classic, clean aesthetic. Dapper Man delivers sharp, structured suits in a timeless black and white color scheme that exudes a sense of luxury and professionalism. The use of high-quality fabrics like wool and silk ensures that the suits not only look high-end but also feel luxurious to the wearer. The designer’s focus on detail is evident in the meticulous tailoring, with fitted blazers and crisp trousers forming the foundation of the collection.
Where IVY-K Fashion shines is in the subtle yet elegant touches. The inclusion of beads as embellishments on lapels and cuffs adds a unique flair, blending traditional craft with modern tailoring. This nod to African heritage gives the collection a distinct identity, offering something more personal and culturally significant than your standard menswear line.
However, despite the elegance of the Dapper Man collection, there is a lingering sense of missed opportunity. The black-and-white color palette, while classic, feels overly safe. In a fashion landscape where bold colors and daring patterns often make the strongest impact, the collection could benefit from incorporating more vibrant hues or experimenting with unconventional fabrics. Pushing the envelope with color or texture could elevate these designs from simply elegant to truly memorable.
In addition, while the tailoring of the blazers and trousers is immaculate, the collection lacks a sense of playfulness or modern edge that many contemporary menswear lines are embracing. The suits are undoubtedly stylish, but the collection as a whole leans heavily on tradition. Experimenting with asymmetrical cuts, bold patterns, or even layering could add an exciting dimension to Dapper Man. The challenge is to maintain the sleek sophistication of the collection while infusing it with a fresh, innovative spirit.
Another area that could use improvement is the overall cohesion of the collection. While the suits are well-crafted, there is a feeling of repetition across the pieces. More variation in design, such as different lapel styles, pocket configurations, or even bolder accessories, would give the collection greater diversity and visual interest.
In conclusion, Dapper Man by Igiebor Daddy Lucky showcases the designer’s strong grasp of classic tailoring and elegant design, but to truly capture the attention of a broader audience, IVY-K Fashion would benefit from more daring choices. By infusing the collection with bold colors, unexpected textures, and a more modern edge, Dapper Man could move from a well-crafted line to a trendsetting force in men’s fashion. With such a solid foundation, there’s no doubt that Igiebor Daddy Lucky has the potential to lead his brand toward greater heights
The trend of indecent dressing all in the name of fashion is fast becoming a norm in our generation and society at large. Most married women embrace this fashion as competition with single ladies.
Different scholars have given an in depth insight about dressing as a tool of communication. Non-verbal communication has been asserted as the communication between people by the means of signs or symbols. It conveys what we wish to disseminate to the public as either intentionally or not.
According to Paul Ekman and Michael Argyle, communication is carried out through what has been classified as “Presentational Code”. He listed nine codes of non-verbal communication, as body contact, facial expression, gestures, postures, eye movement, proximity, orientation, head nods and appearance.
This, being stated, married and single ladies should understand that their mode of dressing is communicative be it directly or indirectly as such body parts we call “private” are now being made public because of the trends or wearing of transparent dresses and this in turn calls on the attention of men who are weak and prone to illicit thoughts thus, resulting to most rape cases in our society.
This indecent dressing by most ladies has denied many their future husbands. The truth is that a man is attracted to his kind; his desires in marriage. It is often asserted that decency and beauty are in the eyes of the beholder, yet, in trending times of this 21st century, dress code and fashion in nudity form is gaining popularity.
This has become complicated as most men tend to toggle between their emotions (lust) and sanity (rationality) in terms of marriage, thereby setting a wrong foundation upon which most marriages are consummated.
On the other hand, most married women have embraced the trend of indecent dressing nipping it on the state of it being the choice dressing, approved by their spouses, leaving society with the question of what “responsible” man would prefer that the secrecy of the benefit of his marital vow has become the centre of attraction and viewership by the general public.
Hence, communicating with their dressing gas given licence to every male gender who is interested or attracted to what they see to make unsolicited sexual passes at them, which might be considered embarrassing.
At this juncture, it is important to state that ladies should dress decently knowing that they are the epitome of nation-building, they are nation-builders, character moulders and pacesetters not just in the lives of their families but to the society at large.
In most occasions, there are no clear border lines between the married women and the single ladies because of the rate of scanty dressing which has close the gap of differences.
Women and girls should embrace this call awakening to decent mode of dressing. Dresses that are meant to be worn indoors should remain indoors.
It is worrisome to see ladies wear shorts that are supposed to be worn in the living room on the streets without shame. This is an awakening call to our ladies, married and singles that the opposite sex do not expose their private body parts for the public. Sometimes, the ladies go about in the streets without wearing brazziers as to showcase their nipples.
The society should be sanitised of the menace of indecent dressing that is lurking and taking over the entire nooks and crannies of the society and the nation at large.
Let it be known that he or she is addressed in the manner he or she is dressed. There may be no room for a second impression. To the single ladies, your dressing decently will not stop you from meeting your Mr Right rather, it will increase your stake and place you on the list of most valued women in the society.
Dressing speaks louder than words.
Kate Chisom Isiocha
Isiocha is an OND final year student of Temple Gate Polytechnic.
