Women

Echoes From 2016 Int’l Women’s Day

Published

11 years ago

March 11, 2016

Wife of Rivers State Governor, Mrs Suzette Nyesom Wike (2nd right), Commissioner for Women Affairs, Mrs Ukel Oyaghiri (left), wife of Speaker, Rivers State House of Assembly, Mrs Charity Adams (right) and another guest on arrival at the church service to mark International Women’s Day at Christ Church Interdenominational, Port Harcourt, yesterday

They came from dif
ferent places, adorned in beautiful, colourful attires, with smiles on their faces. The event was International Women’s Day and Women from the 23 local government areas in the Rivers State, including female professional bodies, market women, Moslem Women Association, Christian Women Association and other women in the state had gathered at Sharks’ Football Stadium (Civic Centre), Moscow Road, Port Harcourt, to join their counterparts all over the world to mark the day.
International Women’s Day was first celebrated on March 19, 1911, with activities like rallies and meetings. The March 19 date was chosen because it commemorated the day that the Prussian King promised to introduce votes for women in 1848. In 1913, International Women’s Day the (IWD) was moved to March 8. In 1977, the United Nations added impetus to the celebration by inviting member states to proclaim March 8 as the United Nations Day for Women’s Right and International Peace. The event is aimed at helping nations worldwide eliminate discrimination against women. It also focuses on helping women gain full and equal participation in global development.
Over the years, women in Rivers State have been part of this great celebration. With this year’s theme: Planet 50-50 by 2030: Step It Up For Gender Equality”, they assembled to reflect on how to accelerate the 2030 agenda.
The Tuesday event was preceded by an Interdenominational Church Service at Christ Church, Forces Avenue on Sunday, March 6, followed by visits to charity homes in Port Harcourt on Monday, March 7.
In her welcome address, the Commissioner for Women Affairs, Barr. (Mrs) Ukel Oyaghiri, said over the years, the female gender, has not attained the expected level of development as their male counterparts, due to unequal treatment meted on the girl-child which has made them not to develop their God given potentials, adding that we cannot achieve sustainable development if the female gender is not developed to function well in the society as their male counterparts.
Oyaghiri called on men to give equal treatment to the female children, empower them and ensure that the rights to their wives and girl-children are protected.
She said her ministry organized this year’s International Women’s Day in a grand style with the hope of touching lives of girl-child, women, children with special needs through the support of the Rivers State Governor, Chief Nyesom Wike, who is gender friendly and who has ensured inclusion of more women in his administration, so as to accelerate the 2030 agenda of building momentum for effective implementation of the new Sustainable Development Goals (SDGs), as her ministry pledge, to close the gender disparity between and men and women and to ensure that by 2030, the ration between men to women will be 50-50″.
Oyaghiri expressed optimism hope that with the support of top government official wives, women drawn from the 23 local government areas (LGSs), governmental and non-governmental groups, female, professional bodies, the desire of ensuring better lives for the less privileged, children with special needs and the physically-challenged in our society will be achieved.
Oyaghiri, who has been the 2nd Vice President of the Taekwando Association of Nigeria and a black belt holders, Black Belt College, urged families especially the men and traditional rulers who still hold onto the obnoxious practices in our society to stop those sharp practices as there was no head way in them and charged them to give equal training to their girl-children as their male counterparts.
She stressed that the entire Rivers people of good-will must ensure the visibility and inclusion of women and girls in all the processes of development and added that this indeed, is the real democracy and gender mainstreaming where women and men are working together peacefully without discrimination to achieve accelerated and sustainable development in the society.
She charged Rivers women to improve on their performances in order to produce and become great women of integrity ready to work hand in hand with their male counterparts to build a better Rivers State come 2030.
In his speech, the Governor of the state, Chief Nyesom Wike, represented by the Secretary to the State Government, (SSG), Keneth Kobani, promised that, his government would continue to enhance and protect the advancement of women in the state, “not just appointing women into key positions, but it is about empowering them to do what they are supposed to do in order to move our society forward”.
He explained that the state government is driven by women, who cut across the three arms of government “and as a gender friendly governor as we can see, the number two citizen in the state is a woman, the Deputy governor, who is the driving force behind Governor Nyesom Wike and also two arms of government are headed by women”. He challenged women to speak for their rights, adding that deprived and poor women should be assisted through empowerment programmes and promised that his government would continue to place women at the pride of place in every decision that they take.
In her key note address, the wife of the Governor, Justice Eberechi Suzzette Nyesom Wike, while expressing her extreme delight with the great turn out of women , said women are the super-structure, the strong pillar for growth and the development of human race.
Similarly, the Deputy Governor of Rivers State, Dr (Mrs) Ipalibo Harry Banigo felicitated with Rivers women. She urged Rivers women, as role models to justify the public offices or positions entrusted to them as co-drivers’ in the Governor Nyesom Wike’s-led administration.
She challenged women to be more vocal on issues of violence against them, obnoxious traditional practices and all forms of discrimination perpetrated against women in the society.
In his address, the chairman of the occasion, Nimi Walson Jack, said that one permanent feature of a developing economy is active participation of the women, adding that the task of fighting against disparity should not be left for women alone, but men must join in ensuring equality for all, while promising that the male folk would assist to ensure that this task was achieved.
Highlights of the event were matchpast competition by various women groups, special performance by the Taekwando Association, drama presentation by the Rivers State Council for Arts and Culture, catching the train, among others.
Okrika and Oyigbo local government areas took first positions in the matchpast and catching the train respectively. They went home with Her Excellency’s Award.

Calista Ezeaku & Sussan Serekara-Nwikhana

Women

Women And Artificial Beauty

Published

2 weeks ago

October 30, 2026

The Tide

Looking good is every woman’s business but looking good for some persons is more important than food. Some prefer to appear trendy instead of attending to household pressure.

Beauty they say is in the eye of the beholder. Every woman by creature is beautiful but some persons feel that the way they were created is not enough. They feel that perhaps the creator should have added more features to their physic.

Artificial beauty did not start today, it has been there as far as man exists. From time to time, there has been one form of additional make-up or the other that women especially, must add to their natural look.

When you look at some of our elders, especially women, you notice certain drills or symbols (tattoo) on their skins, mostly on their hands and legs, in form of designs with dark prints. That is a form of artificial beauty. These days, some young ones still use such to beautify themselves.

It is not only women that are involved in artificial beauty, some young men also have likeness for it. It is common nowadays to see younger male folks spend money to pierce their ears to wear earrings. They also style their hairs in various forms to appear like women so as to look more handsome. This no doubt costs them more money than being in their natural look.

Every generation grows with it’s own new systems, items, styles of artificial beauty. Before now, African women generally and Nigeria in particular had their hair in natural form.

As civilisation and westernisation continued, Nigerian women started copying, for instance, perming of their hair to look like the White women. They started using western-produced chemicals (relaxers) to make their hairs look sleepy and smoother.

Nigerian women used to plate their hair with black thread or go with their hair well cut at low level. In terms of weaving, it was without attachment. The issue of women weaving hair with attachment came with civilisation. That is also a form of make-up.

The quest for extra beauty aside the way women were created has been from one generation to another.

Two or three decades ago, ladies used mascaras to darken and thicken their eyelashes. But in this 21st century, another system has evolved. Fixing of artificial eyelashes has become the order of the day.

In that case, it becomes difficult for them to scratch their eyes Incase of any itches. Some of their eyes turn reddish because of the touch.

There was a lady who was fixing her eyelashes in a salon, unfortunately, she got a phone call that her mother was late, as she started crying, it was difficult for her to clean the tears that were flowing down her cheeks.

The reason was for fear of the eye lashes falling off while cleaning the tears off her eyes.

One funny thing about fixing of artificial eyelashes is that some persons cannot close their eyes properly. The beauty they have in mind before fixing is not really achieved as their look become something anybody cannot behold. Both the shape of their eyes and facial outlook automatically change. One begins to wonder if that is the beauty they are looking for. Instead of looking beautiful, the reverse becomes the case.

As years go by, artificial beauty becomes more sophisticated in the society. The price and cost for looking more beautiful than women were created naturally becomes higher than their natural look.

The cosmetic industry becomes one of the most viable industries worldwide because some women desire artificial beauty. Some engage in cosmetic surgery to alter any part of their body which does not give them pleasure especially the fatty parts. Some go for surgery to make their slacked breasts to return to their original shapes as well as those with big tummies.

It is interesting to note that currently, Nigerian ladies have started to give preference to their natural hair and this is attracting a lot of admiration for them. Many prefer that natural look with low cuts. With that, the cost of maintaining the hair by ladies is reduced.

I think this is commendable as it will save the women from the negative effect of chemical used in manufacturing hair relaxers.

It is also common to see ladies on low cut hairs that are either light complexion, red and other funny colours.

People have been addicted to artificial beauty to the extent that they insert certain substances into their bodies to make them become more robust and attractive to their admirers.

I don’t understand why we should be crazy about adding more to our natural look. Every woman wants to look attractive in a packaged manner without recognising the implications of artificial beauty and make-up.

In fact, women’s quest for beauty has taken different dimension as they tend to appear trendy at home, in offices and as they go about their businesses. That is just to feel belonged and achieve self-esteem.

I recall a few years back, my pastor who trained as an Engineer advised women against the use of lipstick. He said that one of the chemical components of lipstick is lead and that it is dangerous to humans. Many women may not understand the reality of what he said until it manifests.

I think those who are naturally beautiful should not go for artificial make-ups. They should be satisfied with the work of their creator. Women should not continue to paint their faces to look like masquerades and should not lose value due to artificial beauty.

It may interest you to know that persons who apply make-ups excessively are mocked instead of being admired. Make-ups can be applied lightly.

Fixing of nails is another business. After fixing nails, some women find it difficult to perform house cores. Washing their personal belongings becomes a problem. The artificial nails become so long and sophisticated to the extent that the bearer cannot handle objects properly. Those in that habit also find it difficult to eat food with the fingers.

There are people who feel they should have been born in certain colour but when the reverse is the case, they seek artificial make-up. Use of skin-toning cream and soap becomes the option for artificial beauty. This happens to the extent that the users start having dark spots on the skin. Blisters occur on their faces and legs.

Unfortunately, this is an era when there are different kinds of cancer affecting women especially. It becomes difficult to identify the kind of make-up that can be cancerous.

It is high time people had stopped following trend to the detriment of their health.

Ladies should not present themselves as laughing stock with unnecessary make-up as they can still be cherished in their natural outlook.

Eunice Choko-Kayode

Women

Women And Dangers Of Obnoxious Practices

Published

1 month ago

October 9, 2026

The Tide

It is worrisome to hear that a woman or a girl is bathed with acidic contents just because she refuses to adhere to one instruction or the other from an opposite sex.

Sometimes, you see a woman with bruises on the face, with one eye swollen as if she is an animal perhaps she demanded one or two things from her spouse.

A situation where a widow will be mandated to marry a brother-in-law for her to still belong to the family where she is married and to partake in inheritance should be looked into.

Severally, there have been talks, seminars, workshops, fora, arguments, bills and laws abolishing the issues that concern women, especially violence. But much has not been achieved to curtail the menace.

Violence against girls and women has been on the increase. From time to time, it is either girls are denied access to father’s property or a widow is denied inheritance to husband’s properties. Even when laws are put in place about things that will help women have their rights, some persons feel that culture and tradition do not permit such laws.

We are aware that some women are rich and may not want to partake in the share of their late parents’ property, but there are vulnerable ones who may need to be empowered, through perhaps, late parents’ property inheritance.

Some of the obnoxious laws were made before now without the consent of women. There was no enough representation to either argue for or against so as to be beneficial to women generally. Some of the laws were so primitive that even when civilisation came, became difficult to change. Very unfortunately, it is the women sometimes who execute the laws made by men in their absence. But women are suffering it.

If government can establish laws abolishing certain practices against women and girls, it will be better for them and should be in the presence of women while they are in the parliament so that they can contribute as well.

For long, laws against female genital mutilation and circumcision have existed but some communities due to their culture and tradition have refused to put a stop to it with reasons best known to them.

Circumcision of a full-grown girl or lady may not be the only way of attaining maturity. It is a harmful practice and the pain associated with it cannot be imagined. The illegal operation is not performed in the hospital so the dangers inherent will be much.

For those who still practise it, the menace should be discouraged as that is not a proper way of ushering a girl into womanhood. A lot of women lose their lives due to pains experienced during the process. If it was practised in the past when civilisation was not there, it is a different case, nowadays with science and technology proving it wrong, those who still practice should resist.

We know that government is doing a lot to save women and girls from some of the pains they go through but right steps should be taken in the right direction and all stakeholders intensify efforts in dealing with persons who perpetuate evil against their fellow women.

One issue that comes to mind is implementation even if policies and laws are put in place by relevant agencies. The issue has been dwelt on for decades, but it is still practised as big ceremonies in some communities.

When it comes to inheritance, a girl born into a family, married or unmarried will be denied access to father’s property.

When parents are sick, the female child will pick him or her for care and offset medical bills. If it has to do with the demise of parents, the woman and the spouse to will be mandated to provide a cow and perform other burial rites.

If the National Assembly makes laws concerning the well-being of women, community heads, molecular leaders, women groups and associations, religious organisations, Non-Governmental organizations (NGOs) and Civil Society Organisations (CSOs) should create more awareness through the media to sensitise rural dwellers.

In this digital era, it should be forbidden that a woman loses her spouse and she is mandated to drink water used on the late husband.

A legal practitioner, Tam Jacobs, said if one forcefully shaves a woman’s hair with the intention that she is mourning her late spouse, she can sue that person for assault.

He said if the woman is forced to drink water used on her late husband’s body, she can also sue for attempted murder.

According to him, several cases of girl-child inheritance have been won and documented in the law court but some cannot claim it.

“Even a widow who is handicapped may not be able to make attempts, so NGOs, CSOs should be in the forefront to support them and ensure that the laws are implemented at the grassroots level where they are practised”, he said.

A pharmacist, Eno Amos said any culture that does not add colour and value to life, especially as it concerns women should be abolished.

She added that implementation can be easy in the cities where awareness has been created but expressed fear that it may not be easy in the rural areas where culture is really practised.

A business woman, Agnes Ugwu, said tradition and culture were made by man and not God and wondered why people who claim to be educated still follow the tradition of ancestors who never went to school.

Ignorance also comes to play here. If you have watched a documentary showing female genital mutilation and the gory experience the young women go through is something else. Some of the perpetrators claim that the practice has existed for ages. Women have to learn more about issues that concern them.

A nurse, Rosy Ekeocha, said it is not about culture but about the behavior of a group of people in the community who force it on others.

According to her, let people change their behaviour and leave culture alone. It does not happen in every family and if any family allows it that is its business.

She said we are in the 21st century, certain cultures and tradition need to be reviewed to ensure that they align with today’s reality.

Culture is dynamic she said, but that implementation of laws relating to the vulnerable in the society calls for concern.

We should not behave the way people behaved twenty decades ago, after all, we do not dress the way our forefathers dressed. Time has evolved and things are getting better as it concerns women. We are getting more exposed and more enlightened about issues that concern us. Information is moving round as the world is a global village.

Talking about culture nowadays, we wear shoes whereas our forefathers never had any. They walked barefooted far distances to get family necessities but things are better now as we are mobile.

That should also happen to culture and tradition. There are certain aspects of our culture and tradition which are practised today that have expired long ago. We should get rid off them.

Sometime, the bill for prohibition of obnoxious practices against women at the National Assembly was seen as a welcome development, how far have the powers that be gone to ensure that it favours women.

It is expected that the bills abolishing obnoxious practices against women and girls in the society should have started achieving results as it concerns their wellbeing.

Eunice Choko-Kayode

Women

What A Woman Wants In A Man

Published

2 months ago

September 25, 2026

The Tide

A woman needs a man that is honest, trustworthy, nice, loving and financially stable.

There are no two ways about finance in marriage. No matter the level of love, If there is no money, it is always difficult.

Referring to the Biblical belief in Genesis 3:Your desire shall be unto you……..

That is one aspect the woman expects her husband to take care of.

A woman wants a husband that is not lazy, at least helping to do one or two things. A man that is educated and intelligent.

She knows that there is a trait that her husband has. Traits of taking care of people, giving freely to people and caring for her family.

A woman wants to love a husband that has family interest at heart. A man that spends time with his family, remembering his family even as he is away from home.

A woman should not antagonise her husband because of one error or the other. No matter the level of offence he may have committed, you still show some love.

According to the Scripture, it is with wisdom that the women builds her home.

It is not as if the woman will not monitor her husband, but to certain limit. Don’t be a monitoring spirit. Don’t allow anything to take your joy.

Don’t loose trust in your husband.

The idea of checking your husband’s phone should be discouraged. The more you check your husband and his phone, the more you loose your joy.

The home should not be a battle ground for a woman and man. A woman should be able to ask herself if the check on her husband will pay her any good.

Draw a line to a point where you checkmate your husband’s activities.

A woman wants a man that will love her and telling her you love her will be all she desires.

By: Eunice Choko-Kayode