Opinion
Plight Of Women In Recession
Historically, in every era or situation of difficulties, perplexities and emergencies, women and children are usually the most vulnerable segments of society that bear the greatest brunt of agonies. As mothers, what affects children is felt more by women, because, women are the natural custodians of children. In this regard, the first plight of women is the fact that they are rarely appreciated for the burdens they bear and the sacrifices they make on behalf of children and men.
Burden and agonies which women bear and sacrifices which they make are not always physical or visible but more in terms of empathy or inner feelings, which can be quite traumatic and long-lasting. Emilia, wife to Lago in Shakespeare’s Othello, would tell us that men are “all about stomachs, and we all but food; they eat us hungerly, and when they are full, they belch us”.
It is usually during situations of emergencies such as recession that men with large stomachs often belch women after eating them hungerly when times were rosy. Agonies arising from failed relationships and broken homes affect the psyche of women more than the men. In a situation of separation, children usually opt to stay with mothers, thus, in a recession, single-parent homes become quite rampant. But who cares!
With an erosion of the extended family system, fueled more by recession, coupled with job losses, a large number of women are going through serious agonies which some of them would rarely discuss freely with anyone. A private investigation revealed that even when women in agonies turn to churches for succour, they often meet further dangers and abuses, details of which cannot be made public here.
Men have been known to abscond from their homes, leaving wife and children alone and taking shelter somewhere else, unknown to their family. Reasons which such men give for leaving wives and children range from loss of jobs, financial difficulties etc, to intolerable nagging habits of their wives. On the part of the women, there is also a trend where the sustaining juice of love is tied to affluence and comfort.
Large families are definitely hardest hit by the current recession, because to feed, educate and maintain, many children can be quite difficult. When unwanted pregnancies come, it is usually the women who bear the anxiety and agony most, a situation which can lead to nagging, maltreatment or virginal “fencing”.
Loss of self-esteem arising from job losses and reduction is social status can lead to several other plight, both for women and men too. Ailing health can also arise from strains, insufficient nourishment and worries. Problems of adaptation, adjustment and having to cope with the consequences of recession can be quite demanding. Even children in the home can be severely affected in many ways, including become way-ward.
Falling from grace to grass which recession can bring about, is a plight of its own. For the women, when such fall in status is accompanied by a rejection or lukewarm relationship from a loved one, the trauma can be quite severe. The phenomenon of drug addiction arises largely as a response to shocks and trauma whereby an individual looks for means of finding solace. It takes a strong woman to remain stable in crisis.
Declerambault’s Syndrome is a mild psychological aberration which can arise from a sad experience of being rejected by a loved one, because of challenges which recession can bring about. Not many people can remain true friends when conditions get hard, and similarly, not many women can remain stable when there is a fall in status, fallowed by a rejection by somebody they loved and trusted.
People who have gone through some shock, especially being rejected by a loved one, can turn passionately to somebody else who is able to provide an emotional succor at a critical time of need. Such new-found relationship can go to the point of idolization and irrational attachment to a man who may not be quite so serious. A woman may be so carried away by the sermon of a clergy man, that she can instantly get fixated on the man. This is an example of what psychiatrists would call Declerambault’s Syndrome.
Good as religion is, that tendency where it becomes an opium, especially in a time of recession, cannot be regarded as ideal. Definitely, many unsuspecting, heart-broken women, have become victims of some false prophets that have become numerous in Nigeria. There are lots of women who have had lots of sad experiences which they would be relieved to share with appropriate authorities that can help them.
Ministry of Women’s Affairs, Social Welfare outfits and the Federation of Women Lawyers, among other bodies, should please come to the rescue of many women in the point of disorientation arising from abandonment. They are left to fend for children.
Dr. Amirize is a retired lecturer, Rivers State University, Port Harcourt.
Bright Amirize
Opinion
Wike VS Soldier’s Altercation: Matters Arising
The events that unfolded in Abuja on Tuesday November 11, 2025 between the Minister of the Federal Capital Territory, Chief Nyesom Wike and a detachment of soldiers guarding a disputed property, led by Adams Yerima, a commissioned Naval Officer, may go down as one of the defining images of Nigeria’s democratic contradictions. It was not merely a quarrel over land. It was a confrontation between civil authority and the military legacy that still hovers over our national life.
Nyesom Wike, fiery and fearless as always, was seen on video exchanging words with a uniformed officer who refused to grant him passage to inspect a parcel of land alleged to have been illegally acquired. The minister’s voice rose, his temper flared, and the soldier, too, stood his ground, insisting on his own authority. Around them, aides, security men, and bystanders watched, stunned, as two embodiments of the Nigerian state clashed in the open.
The images spread fast, igniting debates across drawing rooms, beer parlours, and social media platforms. Some hailed Wike for standing up to military arrogance; others scolded him for perceived disrespect to the armed forces. Yet beneath the noise lies a deeper question about what sort of society we are building and whether power in Nigeria truly understands the limits of its own reach.
It is tragic that, more than two decades into civil rule, the relationship between the civilian arm of government and the military remains fragile and poorly understood. The presence of soldiers in a land dispute between private individuals and the city administration is, by all civic standards, an aberration. It recalls a dark era when might was right, and uniforms conferred immunity against accountability.
Wike’s anger, even if fiery, was rooted in a legitimate concern: that no individual, however connected or retired, should deploy the military to protect personal interests. That sentiment echoes the fundamental democratic creed that the law is supreme, not personalities. If his passion overshot decorum, it was perhaps a reflection of a nation weary of impunity.
On the other hand, the soldier in question is a symbol of another truth: that discipline, respect for order, and duty to hierarchy are ingrained in our armed forces. He may have been caught between conflicting instructions one from his superiors, another from a civilian minister exercising his lawful authority. The confusion points not to personal failure but to institutional dysfunction.
It is, therefore, simplistic to turn the incident into a morality play of good versus evil.
*********”**** What happened was an institutional embarrassment. Both men represented facets of the same failing system a polity still learning how to reconcile authority with civility, law with loyalty, and service with restraint.
In fairness, Wike has shown himself as a man of uncommon courage. Whether in Rivers State or at the FCTA, he does not shy away from confrontation. Yet courage without composure often feeds misunderstanding. A public officer must always be the cooler head, even when provoked, because the power of example outweighs the satisfaction of winning an argument.
Conversely, soldiers, too, must be reminded that their uniforms do not place them above civilian oversight. The military exists to defend the nation, not to enforce property claims or intimidate lawful authorities. Their participation in purely civil matters corrodes the image of the institution and erodes public trust.
One cannot overlook the irony: in a country where kidnappers roam highways and bandits sack villages, armed men are posted to guard contested land in the capital. It reflects misplaced priorities and distorted values. The Nigerian soldier, trained to defend sovereignty, should not be drawn into private or bureaucratic tussles.
Sycophancy remains the greatest ailment of our political culture. Many of those who now cheer one side or the other do so not out of conviction but out of convenience. Tomorrow they will switch allegiance. True patriotism lies not in defending personalities but in defending principles. A people enslaved by flattery cannot nurture a culture of justice.
The Nigerian elite must learn to submit to the same laws that govern the poor. When big men fence off public land and use connections to shield their interests, they mock the very constitution they swore to uphold. The FCT, as the mirror of national order, must not become a jungle where only the powerful can build.
The lesson for Wike himself is also clear: power is best exercised with calmness. The weight of his office demands more than bravery; it demands statesmanship. To lead is not merely to command, but to persuade — even those who resist your authority.
Equally, the lesson for the armed forces is that professionalism shines brightest in restraint. Obedience to illegal orders is not loyalty; it is complicity. The soldier who stands on the side of justice protects both his honour and the dignity of his uniform.
The Presidency, too, must see this episode as a wake-up call to clarify institutional boundaries. If soldiers can be drawn into civil enforcement without authorization, then our democracy remains at risk of subtle militarization. The constitution must speak louder than confusion.
The Nigerian public deserves better than spectacles of ego. We crave leaders who rise above emotion and officers who respect civilian supremacy. Our children must not inherit a nation where authority means shouting matches and intimidation in public glare.
Every democracy matures through such tests. What matters is whether we learn the right lessons. The British once had generals who defied parliament; the Americans once fought over states’ rights; Nigeria, too, must pass through her own growing pains but with humility, not hubris.
If the confrontation has stirred discomfort, then perhaps it has done the nation some good. It forces a conversation long overdue: Who truly owns the state — the citizen or the powerful? Can we build a Nigeria where institutions, not individuals, define our destiny?
As the dust settles, both the FCTA and the military hierarchy must conduct impartial investigations. The truth must be established — not to shame anyone, but to restore order. Where laws were broken, consequences must follow. Where misunderstandings occurred, apologies must be offered.
Let the rule of law triumph over the rule of impulse. Let civility triumph over confrontation. Let governance return to the path of dialogue and procedure.
Nigeria cannot continue to oscillate between civilian bravado and military arrogance. Both impulses spring from the same insecurity — the fear of losing control. True leadership lies in the ability to trust institutions to do their work without coercion.
Those who witnessed the clash saw a drama of two gladiators. One in starched khaki, one in well-cut suit. Both proud, both unyielding. But a nation cannot be built on stubbornness; it must be built on understanding. Power, when it meets power, should produce order, not chaos.
We must resist the temptation to glorify temper. Governance is not warfare; it is stewardship. The citizen watches, the world observes, and history records. How we handle moments like this will define our collective maturity.
The confrontation may have ended without violence, but it left deep questions in the national conscience. When men of authority quarrel in the open, institutions tremble. The people, once again, become spectators in a theatre of misplaced pride.
It is time for all who hold office — civilian or military — to remember that they serve under the same flag. That flag is neither khaki nor political colour; it is green-white-green, and it demands humility.
No victor, no vanquish only a lesson for a nation still learning to govern itself with dignity.
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