Women
How Women Can Resist Rape Cases
The Oxford Learners Dictionary defines rape as a forceful way of having intercourse with a person without her consent.
Sometimes it occurs under durex, as the woman is threatened with dangerous objects.
Despite efforts by relevant stakeholders to tackle the menace of rape in the society, rape cases have continued to rise.
On a daily basis, it is either a minor is raped or you hear of a full- fledged married or unmarried woman being raped. It is not just minor being molested, infants are also raped.
Sometimes we hear of female students narrating how they encounter gang of rapists at different locations or in their schools. Women in rural localities are not spared.
Some of the ladies resist and prefer to die with them instead of being raped. And a lot go unannounced.
Not too long, a woman in one of the local areas, had also alleged how a man who claimed to be her husband’s friend, tricked her to give him a matchete to cut plantain. After cutting the plantain, he treathened her with the knife and allegedly raped her.
We have had several cases that are unreported because of stigmatisation and mockery in the society. How long will this continue to thrive?
Recently, a case went viral, where a teenage girl was allegedly gang-raped by a group of boys.
A lot of factors could have been responsible for these. Some people say indecent dressing can be responsible. When a woman dresses half naked which can tempt the rapist. There are those who see women in that circumstance but throw away their eyes.
What does a three to four-year-old girl possess that will attract a rapist if it is not an evil or criminal intention to determine if that kind of action should take place.
The dangers associated with rape are enormous on the side of the victim.
A legal practitioner, John Peters, said, it is a criminal action against humanity.
He said it is criminal action in the sense that it was done without the consent of the victim who the action was taken upon.
According to him, when she realises that it was carried out without her consent, she feels demoralised, abandoned, humiliated probably because nobody came to her rescue.
A pharmacist, Angel Uche, said social stigma in the neighbourhood is another problem associated with rape and stressed that the victim finds it difficult to mingle with others thereby dissociates herself from peers.
In her words: “Depression that is associated with rape lingers on to the extent that the victim feels that every social contact with the opposite sex will lead to rape. Women don’t have peace any longer. Anywhere you find yourself, you are so apprehensive because one dirty human being may appear from nowhere to rape you”.
According to a medical expert, Benjamin Udoh, the health status of the rapist is unknown so the tendency of contacting Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs) is possible, as well as HIV/AIDS.
“Unwanted pregnancy is also a danger associated with rape case”, he said.
He said: “If it is a virgin, the trauma resulting from that forceful penetration is huge. It can also cause injury to genital area leading to ailments”.
A teacher, Mrs Ndidi Emeh, said women should begin to do something because it is an issue that is becoming scary and said that much has not been done over the decades.
She said the society should not be raising a generation of people whose life ambition is to be hurting others in their environment.
“It is heart-breaking to hear that three nine-year-old children were raped”, she emphasised.
In her words: “We’ve been silent enough and we have to break this culture of silence. We are living in denial and we have to focus on the pressures and ills of the time we find ourselves.
“I think we must begin to take our destinies in our hands bearing in mind that we are human beings in a complex environment”.
A nurse, Nkechi, said some rapists may be psychologically sick and need help. A man may love his wife, he said and still abuses her even to death.
She said: “This is a form of imbalance and emotionally unstable person who is unable to manage himself. You see a situation where a man finishes beating his wife and starts begging for forgiveness. He needs a form of therapy”.
She appealed to the government that provides the law which covers every society to protect the weak from the strong and said that the law should provide a balance for women.
A school teacher, Mercy Nnamdi, condemned a situation when cases of rape against children and women are reported at the appropriate quarters and money is being demanded for proper documentation.
She said sometimes the perpetrator goes away with it and as a result of frustration, an affected mother or victim may decide to withdraw due largely to the fact that she does not have anything to offer before her case can be handled.
She called on law enforcement agents to be sensitised and more educated about that as it concerns women. “When rape cases are reported, law enforcement agents should as a matter of fact follow up to logical conclusion. It can be anybody’s turn”, she said.
According to her, while the efforts of some of the officers are commended, much is still being expected.
A legal practitioner, Nkem Diri, said a quicker justice system that is up and doing in terms of rape cases is highly needed.
She stressed that it demands the urgency that the matter requires, ensuring that the case does not drag for too long.
She said when rape cases drag for too long it will be stressful on both the victim and her family. “They may lose interest and decide to let it go even after paying money to a lawyer”, she noted.
People should be held accountable for their actions. When that is done, women will feel bold to speak up when they and their wards are abused.
One of the things affecting women for not speaking out sometimes when they find themselves in abusive situations is the issue of mockery.
Women should report rape cases to the appropriate quarters as early as possible, seek justice and surely will be re-integrated into the society.
A medical practitioner, Mike Ibe, said a victim should be able to speak out as soon as possible so that medical examination can be carried out when she encounters a rapist because the rapist might be HIV/AID positive which may secretly want to share or transmit to other people.
Girls should identify and ignore such people who will always make nasty comments while moving on the streets. Avoiding unnecessary touch whether in private and public places will go a long way in curbing the ugly situation. Lonely places should be avoided by ladies.
Certain laws may have been laid down for offenders, but authorities saddled with the responsibility should ensure that those who cannot survive without raping children and women must be punished according to the laws stipulated by government at all levels.
By the time stiffer measures are taken to tackle the menace, women will heave a sigh of relief.
Women groups should rise up in sensitisation on the dangers and consequences of rape. Creating awareness in schools for pupils and students, market women, officers on how women can defeat the monster called rape has become necessary.
By: Eunice Choko-Kayode
Women
Nigeria Deserves Stylish, Sophisticated Designs-Igiebor Daddy Lucky
IVY-K Fashion by Igiebor Daddy Lucky, a Nigerian-born designer now based in the UK, has launched the latest menswear line, Dapper Man.
One of the collection’s strengths is its classic, clean aesthetic. Dapper Man delivers sharp, structured suits in a timeless black and white color scheme that exudes a sense of luxury and professionalism. The use of high-quality fabrics like wool and silk ensures that the suits not only look high-end but also feel luxurious to the wearer. The designer’s focus on detail is evident in the meticulous tailoring, with fitted blazers and crisp trousers forming the foundation of the collection.
Where IVY-K Fashion shines is in the subtle yet elegant touches. The inclusion of beads as embellishments on lapels and cuffs adds a unique flair, blending traditional craft with modern tailoring. This nod to African heritage gives the collection a distinct identity, offering something more personal and culturally significant than your standard menswear line.
However, despite the elegance of the Dapper Man collection, there is a lingering sense of missed opportunity. The black-and-white color palette, while classic, feels overly safe. In a fashion landscape where bold colors and daring patterns often make the strongest impact, the collection could benefit from incorporating more vibrant hues or experimenting with unconventional fabrics. Pushing the envelope with color or texture could elevate these designs from simply elegant to truly memorable.
In addition, while the tailoring of the blazers and trousers is immaculate, the collection lacks a sense of playfulness or modern edge that many contemporary menswear lines are embracing. The suits are undoubtedly stylish, but the collection as a whole leans heavily on tradition. Experimenting with asymmetrical cuts, bold patterns, or even layering could add an exciting dimension to Dapper Man. The challenge is to maintain the sleek sophistication of the collection while infusing it with a fresh, innovative spirit.
Another area that could use improvement is the overall cohesion of the collection. While the suits are well-crafted, there is a feeling of repetition across the pieces. More variation in design, such as different lapel styles, pocket configurations, or even bolder accessories, would give the collection greater diversity and visual interest.
In conclusion, Dapper Man by Igiebor Daddy Lucky showcases the designer’s strong grasp of classic tailoring and elegant design, but to truly capture the attention of a broader audience, IVY-K Fashion would benefit from more daring choices. By infusing the collection with bold colors, unexpected textures, and a more modern edge, Dapper Man could move from a well-crafted line to a trendsetting force in men’s fashion. With such a solid foundation, there’s no doubt that Igiebor Daddy Lucky has the potential to lead his brand toward greater heights
Women
Women Can Curb Indecent Dressing
The trend of indecent dressing all in the name of fashion is fast becoming a norm in our generation and society at large. Most married women embrace this fashion as competition with single ladies.
Different scholars have given an in depth insight about dressing as a tool of communication. Non-verbal communication has been asserted as the communication between people by the means of signs or symbols. It conveys what we wish to disseminate to the public as either intentionally or not.
According to Paul Ekman and Michael Argyle, communication is carried out through what has been classified as “Presentational Code”. He listed nine codes of non-verbal communication, as body contact, facial expression, gestures, postures, eye movement, proximity, orientation, head nods and appearance.
This, being stated, married and single ladies should understand that their mode of dressing is communicative be it directly or indirectly as such body parts we call “private” are now being made public because of the trends or wearing of transparent dresses and this in turn calls on the attention of men who are weak and prone to illicit thoughts thus, resulting to most rape cases in our society.
This indecent dressing by most ladies has denied many their future husbands. The truth is that a man is attracted to his kind; his desires in marriage. It is often asserted that decency and beauty are in the eyes of the beholder, yet, in trending times of this 21st century, dress code and fashion in nudity form is gaining popularity.
This has become complicated as most men tend to toggle between their emotions (lust) and sanity (rationality) in terms of marriage, thereby setting a wrong foundation upon which most marriages are consummated.
On the other hand, most married women have embraced the trend of indecent dressing nipping it on the state of it being the choice dressing, approved by their spouses, leaving society with the question of what “responsible” man would prefer that the secrecy of the benefit of his marital vow has become the centre of attraction and viewership by the general public.
Hence, communicating with their dressing gas given licence to every male gender who is interested or attracted to what they see to make unsolicited sexual passes at them, which might be considered embarrassing.
At this juncture, it is important to state that ladies should dress decently knowing that they are the epitome of nation-building, they are nation-builders, character moulders and pacesetters not just in the lives of their families but to the society at large.
In most occasions, there are no clear border lines between the married women and the single ladies because of the rate of scanty dressing which has close the gap of differences.
Women and girls should embrace this call awakening to decent mode of dressing. Dresses that are meant to be worn indoors should remain indoors.
It is worrisome to see ladies wear shorts that are supposed to be worn in the living room on the streets without shame. This is an awakening call to our ladies, married and singles that the opposite sex do not expose their private body parts for the public. Sometimes, the ladies go about in the streets without wearing brazziers as to showcase their nipples.
The society should be sanitised of the menace of indecent dressing that is lurking and taking over the entire nooks and crannies of the society and the nation at large.
Let it be known that he or she is addressed in the manner he or she is dressed. There may be no room for a second impression. To the single ladies, your dressing decently will not stop you from meeting your Mr Right rather, it will increase your stake and place you on the list of most valued women in the society.
Dressing speaks louder than words.
Kate Chisom Isiocha
Isiocha is an OND final year student of Temple Gate Polytechnic.