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Duties And Responsibilities Of A Child At Home
A family is the smallest unit of a community which is also part of society. Like a community, a family also has members and a leader.
In the family, the position of a child is important. Indeed, in a family position, children can be in a lower position after the father and mother as parents. However, the existence of children can bring more happiness to a family.
Besides having rights, children also have responsibilities and duties at home.
Being A Devoted Child
A child’s primary responsibility is to be devoted to their parents. Children are born and raised by both parents. The love of parents can never be returned by anything.
Every parent would want the best for his/her child. Therefore, they are often willing to sacrifice anything for their children. Well, one form of respect and appreciation that parents can do is to be devoted to them as a parent. For example, helping and speaking politely to them.
Helping To Do Household Chores
Have you ever helped your mother cook? Or help dad wash the car. Well, this activity is an example that you are helping them.
Doing house chores is not just the responsibility of one person. However, the assignments are a shared responsibility. You can share tasks with other family members. For example, mom is in charge of cooking, dad is in charge of washing the car, the younger brother is in charge of washing the dishes, and you are in charge of sweeping the floor.
Therefore, the chores feel easier to do because everyone in the family does them together.
Studying
Learning is indeed expected of every human being until the end of their life. However, as a child, studying is a must.
Every parent wants the best education for their child because they hope they can achieve their goals and succeed.
For this reason, the child must be knowledgeable and study. Well, a child should not disappoint his/her parents.
Always Asking Parents For Permission
Asking parents for permission is a child’s duty. This is because before a child gets married, they are still under the responsibility of their parents.
Therefore, a child must ask permission from their parents if they want to leave the house. By asking permission, your parents will know where you are and can be on alert if you need anything. Parents are responsible for their children’s safety and whereabouts.
Keeping The House Clean
A house is the most comfortable place for every family. It is also a place for children to get to know their immediate environment. It is not surprising that every family member hopes to spend much time at home.
Usually, Saturday and Sunday are used for family time. Some spend time chatting, watching movies, and cleaning the house together.
A comfortable home is not only characterised by a warm sense among the family members. However, a comfortable home also comes from a clean house.
Maintain Good Relations With Siblings
Every family does not only consist of a father, a mother, and one child. Some parents have many children, so the family members become more and more.
Problems can arise when children disagree or don’t get along with their siblings. The atmosphere in the house becomes not conducive and can make other family members uncomfortable.
Therefore, it would be nice if a child could maintain a good relationship with siblings because the family atmosphere will feel comfortable. Although indeed, the different personalities can complement each other. Therefore, respecting each other is essential.
Showing Parents Love And Affection
It is fitting for a child to love their parents as a figure who raises them. Supposedly, loving parents is no longer the duty of a child but an action that children will carry out along the way.
Naturally, a child will love the parents who have cared for them since they were in the womb.
Showing parents love can be done in various ways. For example, saying “I love mom and dad,” saying things politely, giving gifts on their birthdays, and helping to do house chores. These ways are just examples, and you can always be creative in showing affection to your parents.
So, do not hesitate to express your love for your parents, through your actions and words.
Listening To Parents’ Advice
Parents are born first before the children. Parents also have more life experience than children. Sometimes, we need to pay more attention to the advice from parents. However, listening and incorporating it into your daily life is a good idea.
Therefore, remember to listen to every piece of advice from your parents, okay.
Tidying Up Your Room
A bedroom is indeed a private place for everyone, including children. It’s good for you to pay attention to the cleanliness and tidiness of your room. You can start by making the bed, cleaning the furniture’s dust, and tidying up the room’s layout.
It is not surprising that a neat and clean room will provide comfort for you. Let’s get used to tidying up your space.
Having Good Manners
Wherever it is, of course, we have to maintain our manners while speaking and behaving. And it is no exception for a child in their own house.
Indeed, the house is the most “relaxing” place. However, even though the atmosphere at home seems “relaxed,” children still must be polite, especially with their parents.
By Whizmin
By: By: Ibinabo Ogolo
It is the idea of God that family should exit. Children form part of the family. God loves family so much that Jesus was born into the family of Joseph.
Everyone’s family is good and important. Children should not look down on their family whether they are rich or poor.
Children should respect and honour their family and foster love among their siblings. They should work together and make peace in the family. They should always stand in the gap. It is good for family members to carry all along since everyone may not be doing well.
The Christianity that children learn is practised in family. Faith-based organisations do a great job in moulding children’s character. Those are the behaviours that children exhibit towards siblings in family.
Every child born in a family is there for a purpose. A baby born into a family is supplying something. It may be joy, wealth and so on. Everyone is important in a family.
Adolescents who have graduated from school but may not be contributing financially can do one or two things at home. You can engage in preparing meals at home while parents are away for a job or business. Contributing in house chores will go a long way to relieve parents of stress after a day’s job.
What do you contribute to your family, especially during holidays both in nuclear and extended family?
The family you were born is constant but friends are temporary. You can decide not to continue in friendship but you cannot cut off your family. No matter how bad you think your family is and you decide to leave home, you must surely return. Your friends can harbour you for a while.
The child’s first identity comes from the family. What the child learns first comes from the family.
Family is the centre of love and care. People have started playing down on marriage because of neglect on basics of family. Marriage starts today and and the next few months, it is threatened. Respect for family plays a crucial role in marriage.
No child grows without parental control and influence. If a child refuses to grow without taking instructions from parents, he may grow up being wild. There are consequences when children do not obey their parents. There are those who want to be rebellious against their parents. They should know that their length of days are tied to their parents.
Your bioligical parents know you more than every other person. There is the wisdom and knowledge your parents have that you do not so it is proper to listen to them before choosing carriers both in academics and job. A young man or woman can choose who to get married to, but a greater role in the choice of who to marry and the marriage proper comes from the parents.
They know what is best for you. No matter how modern trends will influence you and prove it wrong, parent is the key. No one can love you more than your parents because they are your blood.
A lot of parents have been traumatised due to the fact that children they nurtured and trained turned their back on them at older age. Children should not abandon their parents for any reason.
As you grow up, situations may arise in marriage when you decide it is over with your spouse, but no matter the level of provocation with your parents, they will not despise you. Parents will also play a role in that regard. Problem arises in every family but how it is handled matters a lot.
Some children honour their mentors more than their parents. Although there are parents who shy away from their responsibilities. It is important that parents take full responsibility of their children. You cannot bring a child to the planet earth and refuse to perform roles as a parent. But parents may not quantify what they spent from childhood to adolescence. That is a blessing children cannot get from another person.
There are people who have attributed their failure in life to the fact that their parents, especially mothers are witchcraft. It is wrong to feel that your mother is instrumental to your failure in life. The only way to success is hardwork.
Let money not determine the level of love for your parents. Wherever a child goes, family is constant.
Eunice Choko-Kayode
Naturally, when a child is born, it is the role of the father and mother to decide a suitable name for the child. The husband and wife normally discuss and suggest the English or vernacular name of the baby.
But sometimes, when a baby comes into a family, grandparents hearts are usually filled with joy to the extent that they want to answer present, by giving their own names not minding the fact that the biological parents have given theirs.
This happens mostly when the marriage is an inter-tribal one. It also happens even in intra-tribal marriage. Grandparents want equal representation as far as naming a child is concerned. They also have special names as a result of circumstances surrounding the birth of the child.
This is still happening till date.
A lot of people have viewed this in different ways but there is nothing wrong about it. The most important thing is that the child bears as many names as he or she can. But one thing is certain, the child must bear one name in school.
Should circumstance determine a child’s name?
Women who are more emotional are always eager to name their children considering the circumstances surrounding the child’s conception and arrival.
The issue of grandparents naming a child comes up mostly when it is the first of the family.
In naming children by some parents in the olden days, they named their children according to the days in the week in which they were born, like Sunday, Monday, Friday and so on.
You may be shocked to hear that whether a child is given 10 names by parents or grandparents, when he or she grows up, will decide to change. There are several cases where some persons decided to change especially when they feel that the names given by their parents and grandparents do not give them joy. If they are not doing well in life, they may claim that their misfortune is caused by the name their parents.
Competition among children in schools be it primary, (kindergarten) and secondary come in different forms. It can be Mathematics , debate, quiz, spelling bee,competition, from organisations like Cowbell, multi-national companies, faith-based organisations among others.
They are organised mostly for selected intelligent ones, the best among their peers to represent a class, school or group. Prizes are normally set aside for the best as well as consolation prizes for runners-up at the end of each session.
The question is, are children willing to accept defeat when they fail? As parents, guardians, can you encourage your children or wards to accept defeat instead of shouting and comparing them with others who may be performing better either in schools or outside.
Some parents may be blaming their children for not doing well in competitions. They will like to tell their children if others who may perform better have ten heads. Those group of parents blame their children for every failure.
For your children to do better in competition, the parents too must have emotional intelligence. When you continue to blame your children for failure, how intelligent are you?
Some parents always want their children to be in the 1st position and unhappy whenever they secure 2nd position. There were instances where children smashed their trophies because they never got the position they wanted to get and their parents supported them.
Children should be able to accept it whether they win or not. They should be encouraged for every performance. Discourage the issue of “shame, shame, shame, shame”.
A parent says she always tells her children to win even if they will fail. Always give them the mentality that they can win. Children should be given the impression that they can win prizes and laurels in every competition.
Parents should not isolate their children from others in the neighbourhood. Allow them to play with others. Don’t threaten your children that you may not pay their schools fees if they fail. Comparing them with others may encourage or discourage them.
Coming first or getting award as a first class student from the university sometimes does not mean that the person is the best. And if the child does not merit any award in the lower classes, does not mean that he can not merit first class also.
It should be noted that coming first in academic competition may not really mean that the competitor will be the best at work place or business.
Accepting defeat is a way to move higher. Even if a child who competed with others did not come first, there are consolation prizes for runners-up. When you advise the child to accept defeat, you are encouraging her to win in next competition.
Remember all children cannot be on the same knowledge level Their learning abilities defer.
Eunice Choko-Kayode
