Women
Harbour Road Girls Class 83: Celebrating 40 Years Of Uncommon Bond
Forty years in the life of an individual or institution is a remarkable feat that attracts attention, either on a note of celebration or villainy. For Class ’83 of former Government Girls Secondary School, Harbour Road, Port Harcourt it was a moment of celebration. The old classmates came together to solidify their unbroken union and camaraderie of forty years in a grand and unique style.
For four days, the old girls gathered together, not in their dormitories of old in the school, but in a cosy environment of Kristov’s House, a hospitality outfit in Government Reserved Area (GRA), Phase Three, Port Harcourt, from where they relived experiences and shared moments of joy and ecstasy.
The four-day reunion commenced on Thursday, July 6 2023, with joyous arrival of the old girls, who came in from within and outside Rivers State. The joy was more electric when those from the Diaspora arrived to the warm embrace of those who had never met each other in the last forty years.
The arrival was commemorated with fun, music, especially the dance hall rhythms of the late 1970s and 80s. It was spiced up with enough barbeque and assorted drinks. As each member arrived the hotel, she was greeted with shouts of joy, and the nickname she bore while in school.
It was a gathering of alumni with shared identity and fate anchored on a common bond and fellowship dating back to their formative years at the then Government Girls Secondary School, Harbour Road, Port Harcourt, now Methodist Girls High School(MGHS).
The event was reflective, momentous and enthralling as some of the old students were meeting themselves once again 40 years after graduation.
The programme was spanned to accommodate the line- up of events, which included mentorship training for the students of the school, health, wellness and entrepreneurship talks for members, award presentations, dinner night and special thanksgiving service.
Apart from sharing the fun of yesteryears through the nostalgic reunion, the central theme of the programme was to draw attention to the development of the education system, and address the festering rot in the system.
Thus, Day Two of the reunion featured the “Back to School” programme, aimed at inspiring the students and also giving back to the school through various donations.
These included paper presentation by popular Nollywood actress and an old girl of the school, Hilda Dokubo, who spoke on “Mentoring the Girl Child and Current Realities”, Mrs Ivy Ayanaba Etokakpan, a media expert who spoke on “Benefits of Social Media/Online Marketing”, and Mrs Adiki George, a health practitioner and member of the Set who spoke on, “Self Examination and Discussing with Parents/Mentors”.
Highlight of the Day Two event was the presentation of two Posthumous Honours Awards to Mrs Elfrida Eneni Abrakasa (1978-79) and Dr (Mrs) Boma Iyagba(1979/81),former distinguished principals of the school. Other award presentations and cash gifts were to five former teachers who taught the Set, some of whom were traced up to the day of the award presentation.They include Mrs Binan Ajmani(Indian), Dr (Mrs) Seniba Ariweriokuma, Elder (Mrs) Henrietta Fashola, Mrs Evelyn Akparanta and Mrs Florence Amiesimaka.
Also, as part of the presentation, 40 students of the Alma Mater were honoured in areas of academic excellence and extra curricular activities. Of this number, five best students received cash gifts.
Furthermore, two MGHS teachers were given awards as the best and longest serving staff of the school.
To round up the day, there was old students/current students dancing.
Another highlight of the reunion was the Dinner Party held at the Chinese Restaurant of Visa Karena Hotels in Port Harcourt on Saturday 8th July to mark Day Three of the reunion. Glamorous outfits adorned by the old girls was astonishing, fascinating as they sparked up the dinner night with their elegant appearances. They were joined at the occasion by spouses, relatives and selected old boys and girls associations (Class of 1983), of Comprehensive Secondary School, Borikiri, Baptist High School, Port Harcourt, A.C.M.G.S. Elelenwo and Holy Rosary College, Port Harcourt. Also, in attendance were the President, Prof (Mrs) Blessing Ahiauzu and members of the Executive of GGSS/MGHS Harbour Road Alumni Association.
The Pioneer President of the Association, Prof (Mrs) Hope Ilanye Bell-Gam was also in attendance with her spouse, Prof. Winston Bell-Gam.
The Dinner Party was chaired by Senibo Celestine Ogolo, a renowned journalist, author and administrator who commended the ’83 Set for their uncommon vision and urged them to remain united to attain greater heights.
Addressing guests at the Dinner, the Pioneer President of the Harbour Road Old Girls Association, who was also the Special Guest of Honour, Prof. Hope Bell-Gam described the Class ’83 of the school as exceptional in their vision.
To spice up the Dinner, was a talk on Health/Wellness presented by a Certified Health Coach based in the United States of America and a member of the set, Mrs Magdalene Jack-Boyle.
Highlight of the night was the cutting of the anniversary cake and presentation of honourary awards to three members; Mrs Magdalene Jack-Boyle, Mrs Adiki George and Lady Delphine Ekpenyong for their dedication towards the success of the 40th anniversary celebration. Also, two members and their spouses; Mr Frank/ Mrs Martha Alli and Senibo Celestine/Dr.(Mrs) Ibinabo Ogolo for their commitment to the Class ’83 over the years and success towards the 40th Anniversary celebration.
To round off the celebration, the class went for a Thanksgiving Service at Wesley Methodist Church, Harbour Road, Port Harcourt.
For members who attended the event, Mrs Precious Vivian Eli-Shama-Vice Chairman,40th Anniversary Committee and resident in Abuja, thanked God that the aim of the reunion was achieved where members of repute came in from round the globe to celebrate each other. Also, Dr (Mrs)Leah Wokoma, said that the 40th anniversary was a wonderful experience with refreshingly unforgettable memories. Another member, Princess Ibinabo Ogan-Ukachu, resident in Canada said, “the event was amazing and wonderfully organised. I do not regret coming down for it”.
Also, Ala Akiri, resident in United Kingdom said “the event was wonderful. I enjoyed every bit of it”.
Other members that followed the reunion activities via social media platforms commended the organisers for a job well done. For Mrs Doris Verchuur, resident in Netherlands, “the event was phenomenal, gorgeous and beautiful. I will not miss it next time for anything”.
Wakaebinyo Inengite, resident in Canada stated that every segment of the event was awesome.The planning was excellent.
Also, a former teacher who followed the events online, Mrs Evelyn Akparanta, resident in the United States of America said she was overwhelmed by the award.”I never dreamt that I would be honoured by you girls in my life time.Thank you”.
Veterans of the institution were on ground to cheer up the celebrating old girls and gave them a pat on the back for remembering and assisting in the development of their Alma Mater.
The Global President of GGSS/MGHS, Harbour Road Alumni Association, Prof Blessing Ahiauzu was particularly impressed about the comportment of the Class ’83 of the school, for the unity of purpose and making positive impact in the mentorship of the younger generation.
On his part, the Principal of the school, Rev Daniel Marcauley thanked the Class ’83 for their contributions.
Describing the set as good role models, the principal commended them for becoming worthy ambassadors of the school and urged the students to copy their good examples to improve their lives.
He said, “I’m proud to be associated with the Class ’83 of this great institution, they have consistently demonstrated great concern for the development of this school through their kind heartedness, we are ready to partner with them to move the school to greater standards”.
On her part, the Senior Prefect of 1979 Set, Mrs Jessie Shaw-Nwele who was specially invited for her benevolence towards the ’83 Set during their starting years thanked and congratulated the set for remembering and honouring her after 44 years and for a well thought out programme to celebrate 40th years after school.
Some of the schools that were invited said it was worthy of emulation and some said they were going to organise their own 40th anniversary soon.
The Leader of the Set, Mrs Martha Frank-Alli expressed gratitude to God for keeping the ’83 Set of the institution in unity 40 years after graduation.
Summing up the entire four- day event, the Secretary of the Set, Dr (Mrs) Ibinabo Celestine Ogolo, said the enduring unity and love among the ’83 set have helped them to remain focused and shaped their vision of giving back to the society.
Commenting on the overall event, Lady Delphine Ekpenyong who chaired the 40th Anniversary Committee, said the event was remarkable as it united members of the Set from all over the world.
About 50 members of the Class of 1983 were physically present for the anniversary.
By: Taneh Beemene
Women
Women Can Go Without Artificial Beauty
Looking good is some women’s business. Looking beautiful for some persons is more important than food. Some prefer to appear trendy instead of attending to household pressure.
Beauty they say is in the eye of the beholder. Every woman by creature is beautiful but some persons feel that the way they were created is not enough. They feel that perhaps the creator should have added more features to their physic.
Artificial beauty did not start today, it has been there as far as man exists. From time to time, there has been one form of additional make-up or the other that women especially, must add to their natural look.
When you look at some of our elders, especially women, you notice certain drills or symbols (tattoo) on their skins, mostly on their hands and legs, in form of designs with dark prints. That is a form of artificial beauty. These days, some young ones still use such to beautify themselves.
It is not only women that are involved in artificial beauty, some young men also have likeness for it. It is common nowadays to see younger male folks spend money to pierce their ears to wear earrings. They also style their hairs in various forms to appear like women so as to look more handsome. This no doubt costs them more money than being in their natural look.
Every generation grows with it’s own new systems, items, styles of artificial beauty. Before now, African women generally and Nigeria in particular had their hair in natural form.
As civilisation and westernisation continued, Nigerian women started copying, for instance, perming of their hair to look like the White women. They started using western-produced chemicals (relaxers) to make their hairs look sleepy and smoother.
Nigerian women used to plate their hair with black thread or go with their hair well cut at low level. In terms of weaving, it was without attachment. The issue of women weaving hair with attachment came with civilisation. That is also a form of make-up.
The quest for extra beauty aside the way women were created has been from one generation to another.
Two or three decades ago, ladies used mascaras to darken and thicken their eyelashes. But in this 21st century, another system has evolved. Fixing of artificial eyelashes has become the order of the day.
In that case, it becomes difficult for them to scratch their eyes Incase of any itches. Some of their eyes turn reddish because of the touch.
There was a lady who was fixing her eyelashes in a salon, unfortunately, she got a phone call that her mother was late, as she started crying, it was difficult for her to clean the tears that were flowing down her cheeks.
The reason was for fear of the eye lashes falling off while cleaning the tears off her eyes.
One funny thing about fixing of artificial eyelashes is that some persons cannot close their eyes properly. The beauty they have in mind before fixing is not really achieved as their look become something anybody cannot behold. Both the shape of their eyes and facial outlook automatically change. One begins to wonder if that is the beauty they are looking for. Instead of looking beautiful, the reverse becomes the case.
As years go by, artificial beauty becomes more sophisticated in the society. The price and cost for looking more beautiful than women were created naturally becomes higher than their natural look.
The cosmetic industry becomes one of the most viable industries worldwide because some women desire artificial beauty. Some engage in cosmetic surgery to alter any part of their body which does not give them pleasure especially the fatty parts. Some go for surgery to make their slacked breasts to return to their original shapes as well as those with big tummies.
It is interesting to note that currently, Nigerian ladies have started to give preference to their natural hair and this is attracting a lot of admiration for them. Many prefer that natural look with low cuts. With that, the cost of maintaining the hair by ladies is reduced.
I think this is commendable as it will save the women from the negative effect of chemical used in manufacturing hair relaxers.
It is also common to see ladies on low cut hairs that are either light complexion, red and other funny colours.
People have been addicted to artificial beauty to the extent that they insert certain substances into their bodies to make them become more robust and attractive to their admirers.
I don’t understand why we should be crazy about adding more to our natural look. Every woman wants to look attractive in a packaged manner without recognising the implications of artificial beauty and make-up.
In fact, women’s quest for beauty has taken different dimension as they tend to appear trendy at home, in offices and as they go about their businesses. That is just to feel belonged and achieve self-esteem.
I recall a few years back, my pastor who trained as an Engineer advised women against the use of lipstick. He said that one of the chemical components of lipstick is lead and that it is dangerous to humans. Many women may not understand the reality of what he said until it manifests.
I think those who are naturally beautiful should not go for artificial make-ups. They should be satisfied with the work of their creator. Women should not continue to paint their faces to look like masquerades and should not lose value due to artificial beauty.
It may interest you to know that persons who apply make-ups excessively are mocked instead of being admired. Make-ups can be applied lightly.
Fixing of nails is another business. After fixing nails, some women find it difficult to perform house cores. Washing their personal belongings becomes a problem. The artificial nails become so long and sophisticated to the extent that the bearer cannot handle objects properly. Those in that habit also find it difficult to eat food with the fingers.
There are people who feel they should have been born in certain colour but when the reverse is the case, they seek artificial make-up. Use of skin-toning cream and soap becomes the option for artificial beauty. This happens to the extent that the users start having dark spots on the skin. Blisters occur on their faces and legs.
Unfortunately, this is an era when there are different kinds of cancer affecting women especially. It becomes difficult to identify the kind of make-up that can be cancerous.
It is high time people had stopped following trend to the detriment of their health.
Ladies should not present themselves as laughing stock with unnecessary make-up as they can still be cherished in their natural outlook.
Eunice Choko – Kayode
Women
IDGC: Girls’ Vision For The Future
Yearly, the girls are celebrated not just because they are girls, but because of their importance to families, society and the nation at large.
You will agree that when the girl-child comes into a family first, that family is blessed. The assistance she renders to the family can not be compared to that of the opposite sex.
The job she does in the home cuts across many duties. In the home, she takes care of her younger ones. She assists her mother in carrying out house chores. After her educational career and she obtains a job, she caters for her family even as she is married out. She takes care of her aged parents in her matrimonial home.
This same girl-child when given the right training and opportunities, will also train her offspring. Thus, “train a woman and you train a nation”. When women are at the helms of affairs, things are done better.
Celebrating the girl-child yearly is a call to parents, families, faith-based organisations, non-governmental organisations, governments at all levels, and all relevant organisations that have one or two things to do with the girls to continue to put in place policies that will enhance their well-being.
On a daily basis, the girl-child faces more challenges. Sometimes, she finds it difficult to resist dangers. The issue of rape, violence of any form, sexual harassment, intimidation, discrimination in families about who should go to school or not.
The Nigeria Association of Women Journalists (NAWOJ), Rivers State chapter, called on the government, the state and local assembly to enact laws that criminalise any act capable of impeding the education of the girl-child.
The association made the call as it joined the world to commemorate the International Day of the Girl-Child, in Port Harcourt, Friday.
NAWOJ also appealed to ministry of education and other relevant authorities to prevail against hawking during school hours, as well as call for an end to early girl-child marriage.
The state chairperson of the association, Susan Serekara-Nwikhana, who spoke in an interview with the press said: “We are calling on the Rivers State government, the Rivers State House of Assembly and the Local Assembly to enact laws that criminalise any act capable of impeding on the education of the girl child.
“We also want the government to throw her weight against any girl-child found hawking on the streets during school hours as this will serve as deterrent to any parent or ward that is nursing such idea.
“There is need for every girl-child to be properly educated as this impact generally on the society positively.”
Speaking on the 2024 theme which is, “Girls’ Vision For The Future”, NAWOJ chair stressed the need for parents to prioritise the education of their daughters.
She explained that quality education was key to an assured future for every girl-child, stressing that education unlocks doors of possibilities and the I-can spirit.
Her words: “Remember, you put an end to blind submission when you train the girl-child. Today, many girl-children have been abandoned and are left to pass through harrowing conditions that they never dreamt of due to lack of education.
“Do you know that the girl child suffer most as she is confronted with lots of challenges from the day she was born into a home; siblings rivalry on who should go to school and who should not, a decision that most parents take that negatively impedes on the girl-child and to the day she steps into her husband’s house, especially with a wicked mother-in-law or father-in-law.”
She noted that only those female children privileged to acquire quality education can surmount the challenges that confront them on their way to greatness.
“As we all know that the role of every woman in the society cannot be over-emphasised as such without education given to the gild-child, the society will raise dysfunctional women, who are abused, used and abandoned”, she emphasised.
The NAWOJ chair insisted: “When the girl-child is exposed to education, you have given her opportunity to endless possibilities, thereby putting an end to subjugation and blind subservient”.
As Rivers State joins the rest of the world to mark the 2024 International Day of the Girl-Child, a non-profit organisation, Multi Stakeholders Committee for the Prevention of Gender-Based Violence in Rivers State has called for policies to protect the girl- child against gender-based violence.
It also urged for massive investment in the development of the girl-child.
The group said this in a statement to mark the day.
According to the statement signed by the coordinator of the group, who is also the Head of the Public Defender, Rivers State, Evelyn Membere Asimiea, time has come for the society to stand together and ensure that no girl is left behind.
She also said the celebration which has as its theme, “Girls, Vision For The Future”, is a call to action not just to acknowledge the challenges girls face but to actively empower them.
According to the statement, as we join the global community to celebrate the International Day of the Girl-Child, we are reminded of the powerful potential of every girl and the urgent need to invest in their rights. This year’s theme, “Girls: Vision For The Future,” calls us to action not just to acknowledge the challenges girls face but to actively empower them as leaders of tomorrow.
Mrs Asimiea said time has come for stakeholders including government, civil society organisations, families and individuals to stand together and ensure that no girl is left behind.
“As Coordinator of the Multi-Stakeholders Committee for the Prevention of Gender-Based Violence and Head of the Office of the Public Defender, Rivers State, I wish to highlight that our girls are at the heart of building strong, safe, and prosperous communities. Yet, they are often the most vulnerable to violence, discrimination, and neglect. It is time for all of us—government, civil society, families, and individuals—to stand together and ensure that no girl is left behind”, the statement said.
She also called for massive investment in the girl- child, adding: “Investing in girls means ensuring they have access to quality education, healthcare, and equal opportunities.
“It means protecting them from all forms of gender-based violence (GBV), child marriage, and harmful traditional practices.
“When we invest in the safety, education, and empowerment of girls, we are investing in the future of our state and nation.”
It reiterated its commitment to continue to advocate for the right of the girl child, stressing that the group is working tirelessly to advocate for the rights of girls and the women.
“We are working tirelessly to advocate for the rights of girls and women, providing legal support to survivors of GBV, and pushing for stronger policies to prevent violence and protect their futures.
“But we cannot do it alone. We need every family, every community leader, and every citizen to take responsibility for the well-being of our girls.
“On this day, I urge you all to commit to creating a world where every girl feels safe, valued, and empowered to lead. Together, we can build a Rivers State where girls’ rights are protected, and their leadership flourishes, for the future of all of us”, the coordinator said.
As we mark this year’s girl-child day, women groups all over the world should as a matter of fact, continue to create awareness on the need to develop them in the right way so that they can showcase their potentials.
Eunice Choko-Kayode