Arts/Literary
Whither Night Clubs, Cinemas
Although the name Port Harcourt means different things for different persons, but those familiar with the capital city of Rivers state would remember with nostalgia the good old days when the Garden city of Nigeria bubbled with night life and unadulterated fun, particularly in the early ‘70s and the late ‘80s. This was the era of nigh clubbing and cinema viewing then, Port Harcourt was placed second to Lagos in terms of full blown entertainment.
Among the night clubs that held sway in those days were Lido Night Club, Club 67, Copa Kabana, kakadu, Ritz, Orupolo Nigh Club etc. These clubs later gave way to new ones namely: Music Machine, Dreams, Uncle Sam, O.J. Maroric, Acquarius, Heart Beat, Twan light, Chez Therez, Milk and Honey, Chichi Night Club later changed to Rollingstone, bootleggers and Oxygen amongst others.
Regrettably, these popular clubs sank into oblivion within a short space of time thus paring way for the emergence of new ones such as Illusions, Cassablanca, The Wish, Miliki Davang and Boomerrang which now compete with drinking palours and other hangouts for survival.
Apart from the night clubs, cinema culture was also in vogue in those old days. It was an era when cinema houses were competing for the peoples’ patronage. People enjoyed going to cinema houses to watch interesting western movies, Chinese and Indian films along Okija road, Mile I Diobu Port Harcourt. Some of the popular film houses then included Empress cinema along Okija street, Mile I Diobu Port Harcourt and the Rivolic cinema in the old Port Harcourt township axis among several, others.
Residents of the oil rich city were contented with the state of affairs until 1984 when Alade Aromire, a budding film producer and actor then, Shot his film on video format titled “Ekun.” It was the first home video in Nigeria. Though far from being a commercial success, the production of Ekun’ on VHS format opened a new chapter in the evolution of home video film industry in the country. Since then, the home video industry has taken over the entertainment world in Port Harcourt.
In 1996, another home popular video titled living in Bondage produced by Kenneth Nnebue came out and recorded success commercially.
The success recorded and the glomour inherent in these films motivated other movie producers to cue in.
This finally sounded a death knee for cinema viewing culture in Port Harcourt until recently when silverbird cinemas and Genesis Cinemas were established to re-awaken the spirit of cinema viewing in the Garden city.
An ‘old school’ resident, Mr Stephen Orlu who spoke with The Tide recently disclosed that he had been living in the city for the past 55 years. According to him, Port Harcourt is no longer what it used to be interms of night life and entertainment, because of increase in crime rate prostitution and other social vices that have instilled fear and sense of insecurity amongst the populace.
He regretted that drinking joints and other hangouts have taken over night life in the city.
Some of these popular joints include Charlies, Mr. Sweet, Ben Harry, Cool Breeze, Eddiez Wine bar, Stanza, G’ Branda etc, most of which are located within the GRA axis and its environ and as well as old Port Harcourt township.
Mr. Orlu maintained that although these hangouts also provided fun and relaxation, they are not in the same class as the night clubs because night clubs have entertainment facilities such as dancing floors and super sound system cosy environment and choice drinks which gives it class and exclusiveness.
He noted that the clubs were more conducive for fun seekers stressing that most times the drinking joints were being patronized by every Dick, Tom and Harry including sex workers.
Another resident who has spent over 40 years in the city, Mr. Ambrose Thompson contended that the post amnesty programme of the Federal and State governments have restored peace, security and development in Rivers State and other states of the Niger Delta Region as people now go out, without fear, to relax themselves.
He however, observed that the development has brought about a negative trend in night life as it has led to increase in prostitution. He stressed that the ‘scarlet sisters’ have taken advantage of the peaceful environment to boost their inglorious sex trade.
This has affected the psyche of many fun seekers who, before exploited the cozy nature of Port Harcourt to relax themselves.
However, the entertainment industry in the state has reached a height that now proels it to international recognition and give both the artistes and showbiz personalities an enviable status. The fear now is how to nurture a greater height.
Jacob Obinna
It is the idea of God that family should exit. Children form part of the family. God loves family so much that Jesus was born into the family of Joseph.
Everyone’s family is good and important. Children should not look down on their family whether they are rich or poor.
Children should respect and honour their family and foster love among their siblings. They should work together and make peace in the family. They should always stand in the gap. It is good for family members to carry all along since everyone may not be doing well.
The Christianity that children learn is practised in family. Faith-based organisations do a great job in moulding children’s character. Those are the behaviours that children exhibit towards siblings in family.
Every child born in a family is there for a purpose. A baby born into a family is supplying something. It may be joy, wealth and so on. Everyone is important in a family.
Adolescents who have graduated from school but may not be contributing financially can do one or two things at home. You can engage in preparing meals at home while parents are away for a job or business. Contributing in house chores will go a long way to relieve parents of stress after a day’s job.
What do you contribute to your family, especially during holidays both in nuclear and extended family?
The family you were born is constant but friends are temporary. You can decide not to continue in friendship but you cannot cut off your family. No matter how bad you think your family is and you decide to leave home, you must surely return. Your friends can harbour you for a while.
The child’s first identity comes from the family. What the child learns first comes from the family.
Family is the centre of love and care. People have started playing down on marriage because of neglect on basics of family. Marriage starts today and and the next few months, it is threatened. Respect for family plays a crucial role in marriage.
No child grows without parental control and influence. If a child refuses to grow without taking instructions from parents, he may grow up being wild. There are consequences when children do not obey their parents. There are those who want to be rebellious against their parents. They should know that their length of days are tied to their parents.
Your bioligical parents know you more than every other person. There is the wisdom and knowledge your parents have that you do not so it is proper to listen to them before choosing carriers both in academics and job. A young man or woman can choose who to get married to, but a greater role in the choice of who to marry and the marriage proper comes from the parents.
They know what is best for you. No matter how modern trends will influence you and prove it wrong, parent is the key. No one can love you more than your parents because they are your blood.
A lot of parents have been traumatised due to the fact that children they nurtured and trained turned their back on them at older age. Children should not abandon their parents for any reason.
As you grow up, situations may arise in marriage when you decide it is over with your spouse, but no matter the level of provocation with your parents, they will not despise you. Parents will also play a role in that regard. Problem arises in every family but how it is handled matters a lot.
Some children honour their mentors more than their parents. Although there are parents who shy away from their responsibilities. It is important that parents take full responsibility of their children. You cannot bring a child to the planet earth and refuse to perform roles as a parent. But parents may not quantify what they spent from childhood to adolescence. That is a blessing children cannot get from another person.
There are people who have attributed their failure in life to the fact that their parents, especially mothers are witchcraft. It is wrong to feel that your mother is instrumental to your failure in life. The only way to success is hardwork.
Let money not determine the level of love for your parents. Wherever a child goes, family is constant.
Eunice Choko-Kayode
Naturally, when a child is born, it is the role of the father and mother to decide a suitable name for the child. The husband and wife normally discuss and suggest the English or vernacular name of the baby.
But sometimes, when a baby comes into a family, grandparents hearts are usually filled with joy to the extent that they want to answer present, by giving their own names not minding the fact that the biological parents have given theirs.
This happens mostly when the marriage is an inter-tribal one. It also happens even in intra-tribal marriage. Grandparents want equal representation as far as naming a child is concerned. They also have special names as a result of circumstances surrounding the birth of the child.
This is still happening till date.
A lot of people have viewed this in different ways but there is nothing wrong about it. The most important thing is that the child bears as many names as he or she can. But one thing is certain, the child must bear one name in school.
Should circumstance determine a child’s name?
Women who are more emotional are always eager to name their children considering the circumstances surrounding the child’s conception and arrival.
The issue of grandparents naming a child comes up mostly when it is the first of the family.
In naming children by some parents in the olden days, they named their children according to the days in the week in which they were born, like Sunday, Monday, Friday and so on.
You may be shocked to hear that whether a child is given 10 names by parents or grandparents, when he or she grows up, will decide to change. There are several cases where some persons decided to change especially when they feel that the names given by their parents and grandparents do not give them joy. If they are not doing well in life, they may claim that their misfortune is caused by the name their parents.
Competition among children in schools be it primary, (kindergarten) and secondary come in different forms. It can be Mathematics , debate, quiz, spelling bee,competition, from organisations like Cowbell, multi-national companies, faith-based organisations among others.
They are organised mostly for selected intelligent ones, the best among their peers to represent a class, school or group. Prizes are normally set aside for the best as well as consolation prizes for runners-up at the end of each session.
The question is, are children willing to accept defeat when they fail? As parents, guardians, can you encourage your children or wards to accept defeat instead of shouting and comparing them with others who may be performing better either in schools or outside.
Some parents may be blaming their children for not doing well in competitions. They will like to tell their children if others who may perform better have ten heads. Those group of parents blame their children for every failure.
For your children to do better in competition, the parents too must have emotional intelligence. When you continue to blame your children for failure, how intelligent are you?
Some parents always want their children to be in the 1st position and unhappy whenever they secure 2nd position. There were instances where children smashed their trophies because they never got the position they wanted to get and their parents supported them.
Children should be able to accept it whether they win or not. They should be encouraged for every performance. Discourage the issue of “shame, shame, shame, shame”.
A parent says she always tells her children to win even if they will fail. Always give them the mentality that they can win. Children should be given the impression that they can win prizes and laurels in every competition.
Parents should not isolate their children from others in the neighbourhood. Allow them to play with others. Don’t threaten your children that you may not pay their schools fees if they fail. Comparing them with others may encourage or discourage them.
Coming first or getting award as a first class student from the university sometimes does not mean that the person is the best. And if the child does not merit any award in the lower classes, does not mean that he can not merit first class also.
It should be noted that coming first in academic competition may not really mean that the competitor will be the best at work place or business.
Accepting defeat is a way to move higher. Even if a child who competed with others did not come first, there are consolation prizes for runners-up. When you advise the child to accept defeat, you are encouraging her to win in next competition.
Remember all children cannot be on the same knowledge level Their learning abilities defer.
Eunice Choko-Kayode
