Women
Love: All We Need For A Better Relationship
Looking at the word love, does it make significant impact in a man’s life? Could you believe that love is a channel through which our relationship with God revolves? Well, the impact of love could be traced from the creation of man in the garden of Edem.
Love as a concept, has created a very big impact in the life of man since the origin of the world. According to Oxford – Advanced Learners Dictionary, “Love is a strong feeling of deep affection for somebody.”
It could be the one a mother has for her children, or love of one’s country. Several affections or passions could also be described as love, eg, a love song/story.
Do you think there are communities, countries, homes, that are experiencing peace without the existence of love therein? Love brings peace and nothing works without love.
Getting physical attraction would be the only possible relationship.
Remember the grace and power that is keeping our nation (Nigeria) today is the love God has for us.
Some see love as a state of confusion and disorder, but the reverse is the case. Love is an overwhelming feeling.
When you love some one you know, denying the fact won’t help and surprising love wouldn’t work either. We don’t love by surprise, if you love someone, make it open and express your love in the scripture, God had love for us and it was made open. He (God) expressed his love for us.
In the same vein, you don’t hide love because if you feel love for someone, it will be recognised by another person or yourself who had the feeling so. Love doesn’t hide no matter how you do it. It must be revealed consciously or unconsciously.
Love is everywhere, yet no where, this is because we know what is love but refused to follow its meaning.
But the possibilities of love remain endless, love is simplistic, chaotic, and at the same time shared.
Love knows all works of life, and it consumes and saves life at the same time.
Wherever life is, love is involved. According to an article once published by Topnews titled: “. Today’s Woman”, most people especially women believed that, “love is the proof that a woman meeds to have some assurance that the man will stick around her and help her with the upbringing of her off springs.
You can see that this is talking about sexual benefit and commitment. But also remember that love has to do with your total commitment towards the betterment of your brothers, sisters, relations, country, state and well wishers.
We are talking about the love Joseph had for his brothers, even after the betrayal. Cain killed his brother because there was no love in his heart. Gen. 4:8 proved that it was love that pushed Adam to eat the forbidden fruit given to him by his wife, Eve in the garden.
What else can we say about love?
As a reader of this piece, take a second to think about how your life would have been if love was non-existent?
No family member saying “I love you”. A wife or husband, boy friend or girl friends, all
Friends are only acquaintance, none of which ever repeats those three words. Think about letters, cards or any gift items always saying anything except for “love”.
When you have taken the time to think about the question through, I encourage you, reading this piece now, to tell your loved ones, “I love you”.
As a matter of fact, this word “Love” is not for a particular set of people, it is not selective. Not for the rich. Not for the poor. It is a general word that should be emulated from Christ who died for our sin, and whose blood was shed on the cross.
There should be love to ensure unity and mutual understandin g between parents and children, Pastors and Church members, leaders and followers, teachers and students. Even in the market, between sellers and buyers, let there be love. I believe that “love is the key to prosperity. The word “love” should be put in practice. Even among our youths, let there be love because it is said that “youth are tomorrow’s leaders. So how can we achieve effective leadership without love that will promote peace and unity among the rulers and the ruled.
Personally, love is all about being your brothers keeper and eliminating anything that will bring discrimination between you and your loved ones.
Elijah Jerry Dike
Women
Nigeria Deserves Stylish, Sophisticated Designs-Igiebor Daddy Lucky
IVY-K Fashion by Igiebor Daddy Lucky, a Nigerian-born designer now based in the UK, has launched the latest menswear line, Dapper Man.
One of the collection’s strengths is its classic, clean aesthetic. Dapper Man delivers sharp, structured suits in a timeless black and white color scheme that exudes a sense of luxury and professionalism. The use of high-quality fabrics like wool and silk ensures that the suits not only look high-end but also feel luxurious to the wearer. The designer’s focus on detail is evident in the meticulous tailoring, with fitted blazers and crisp trousers forming the foundation of the collection.
Where IVY-K Fashion shines is in the subtle yet elegant touches. The inclusion of beads as embellishments on lapels and cuffs adds a unique flair, blending traditional craft with modern tailoring. This nod to African heritage gives the collection a distinct identity, offering something more personal and culturally significant than your standard menswear line.
However, despite the elegance of the Dapper Man collection, there is a lingering sense of missed opportunity. The black-and-white color palette, while classic, feels overly safe. In a fashion landscape where bold colors and daring patterns often make the strongest impact, the collection could benefit from incorporating more vibrant hues or experimenting with unconventional fabrics. Pushing the envelope with color or texture could elevate these designs from simply elegant to truly memorable.
In addition, while the tailoring of the blazers and trousers is immaculate, the collection lacks a sense of playfulness or modern edge that many contemporary menswear lines are embracing. The suits are undoubtedly stylish, but the collection as a whole leans heavily on tradition. Experimenting with asymmetrical cuts, bold patterns, or even layering could add an exciting dimension to Dapper Man. The challenge is to maintain the sleek sophistication of the collection while infusing it with a fresh, innovative spirit.
Another area that could use improvement is the overall cohesion of the collection. While the suits are well-crafted, there is a feeling of repetition across the pieces. More variation in design, such as different lapel styles, pocket configurations, or even bolder accessories, would give the collection greater diversity and visual interest.
In conclusion, Dapper Man by Igiebor Daddy Lucky showcases the designer’s strong grasp of classic tailoring and elegant design, but to truly capture the attention of a broader audience, IVY-K Fashion would benefit from more daring choices. By infusing the collection with bold colors, unexpected textures, and a more modern edge, Dapper Man could move from a well-crafted line to a trendsetting force in men’s fashion. With such a solid foundation, there’s no doubt that Igiebor Daddy Lucky has the potential to lead his brand toward greater heights
Women
Women Can Curb Indecent Dressing
The trend of indecent dressing all in the name of fashion is fast becoming a norm in our generation and society at large. Most married women embrace this fashion as competition with single ladies.
Different scholars have given an in depth insight about dressing as a tool of communication. Non-verbal communication has been asserted as the communication between people by the means of signs or symbols. It conveys what we wish to disseminate to the public as either intentionally or not.
According to Paul Ekman and Michael Argyle, communication is carried out through what has been classified as “Presentational Code”. He listed nine codes of non-verbal communication, as body contact, facial expression, gestures, postures, eye movement, proximity, orientation, head nods and appearance.
This, being stated, married and single ladies should understand that their mode of dressing is communicative be it directly or indirectly as such body parts we call “private” are now being made public because of the trends or wearing of transparent dresses and this in turn calls on the attention of men who are weak and prone to illicit thoughts thus, resulting to most rape cases in our society.
This indecent dressing by most ladies has denied many their future husbands. The truth is that a man is attracted to his kind; his desires in marriage. It is often asserted that decency and beauty are in the eyes of the beholder, yet, in trending times of this 21st century, dress code and fashion in nudity form is gaining popularity.
This has become complicated as most men tend to toggle between their emotions (lust) and sanity (rationality) in terms of marriage, thereby setting a wrong foundation upon which most marriages are consummated.
On the other hand, most married women have embraced the trend of indecent dressing nipping it on the state of it being the choice dressing, approved by their spouses, leaving society with the question of what “responsible” man would prefer that the secrecy of the benefit of his marital vow has become the centre of attraction and viewership by the general public.
Hence, communicating with their dressing gas given licence to every male gender who is interested or attracted to what they see to make unsolicited sexual passes at them, which might be considered embarrassing.
At this juncture, it is important to state that ladies should dress decently knowing that they are the epitome of nation-building, they are nation-builders, character moulders and pacesetters not just in the lives of their families but to the society at large.
In most occasions, there are no clear border lines between the married women and the single ladies because of the rate of scanty dressing which has close the gap of differences.
Women and girls should embrace this call awakening to decent mode of dressing. Dresses that are meant to be worn indoors should remain indoors.
It is worrisome to see ladies wear shorts that are supposed to be worn in the living room on the streets without shame. This is an awakening call to our ladies, married and singles that the opposite sex do not expose their private body parts for the public. Sometimes, the ladies go about in the streets without wearing brazziers as to showcase their nipples.
The society should be sanitised of the menace of indecent dressing that is lurking and taking over the entire nooks and crannies of the society and the nation at large.
Let it be known that he or she is addressed in the manner he or she is dressed. There may be no room for a second impression. To the single ladies, your dressing decently will not stop you from meeting your Mr Right rather, it will increase your stake and place you on the list of most valued women in the society.
Dressing speaks louder than words.
Kate Chisom Isiocha
Isiocha is an OND final year student of Temple Gate Polytechnic.